I use baby lotion and sometimes Astroglide and I've found that the more I use, the better! And I use it on my "girly bits" because chafing down there is a really really really bad thing. I'm not sure exactly what parts you're having issues with, but I've never had any problems from baby lotion or Astroglide. Chamois Butt'r, however, irritates my more sensitive areas. Not sure, but I think it might be the lanolin.