Quote Originally Posted by WindingRoad View Post
Another thing is my boyfriend has been acting suspicious. He keeps asking me why she and I don't hang out anymore. I hate to tell him because he already deals with this kind of crap at his job. I don't see a need to make him upset because I am upset about it. He's had a lot of stress lately at work and he works long hours so I am reluctant to tell him about why she and I aren't riding buds any longer. I know how he is and something like that will really eat at him.

I will agree with some of you that yes I am a bit ignorant when it comes to being observant about racism. With my morals and what makes me who I am it still shocks and horrifies me that racism right here in my little bubble of existence lives today. I guess I also expect the younger generation to be better than previous ones.
Just a comment re your boyfriend's reaction and later: You can merely explain why in a low key way and not make a big deal about it. And remind him that you have other close friends that you trust. (I assume that you do. ) 'Cause really, he already has dealt with much worse racist stuff and he probably knows far worse stuff with other interracial couples.

He just hasn't the energy to describe all that he has experienced to you. On this latter point, I have to say I haven't described every incident in my life to my partner (who's of German descent). He just knows the key crap.

As for younger generation being better, yes they can be but it depends on their exposures from family, friends, and media. Sometimes the problem is that certain historical racist crap is NOT taught in the school where the young can learn from our past mistakes.

I gotta go cycling now and may respond later when I read Wiindingrd.'s latest post above.