So, my boyfriend and I are very serious and will probably be engaged within two years. We both want it but due to circumstances (me grad school, him his current job) it probably wont be able to happen until then which is fine. We both have agreed on the fact that we would rather better ourselves now and then be able to be together, rather than trying to do this while being newly weds and possibly giving up different opportunities (our current opportuniteis are in different cities which is why we do not live in the same city).

Well, last night we were talking and somehow babies and concerns came up. Then he made a statment that if he was working and we had a baby, that it would be better for us to get his full night's sleep than to stay up and help with the baby. I think that this is a very selfish way of thinking and only benefits him. I understand his point, but I don't think that he has thought out that women can't lounge around all day when they have had a baby.

I don't know if he is thinking this way because he doesn't have the baby knowledge to understand what is required or not. This concerns me greatly that I would basically end up raising the kids on my own.

Should I bring this up to him again? When? How? And any advice on particular things to say to make it an effective conversation???