One of the things they talk about in Stott Pilates is that a lot of the neck strain is actually coming from the shoulders - if you really work at stabilizing the scapulae, the neck will relax at least some. It seems to work for me.
Also a trick I learned that I have no idea why it works, is to touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth. That helps your neck relax too. 
+1 on Yoga and Pilates being very different! I've been doing one after the other Saturday mornings, so I get the contrast pretty starkly!
Last edited by OakLeaf; 02-20-2009 at 04:40 PM.
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