Is your bike set up/sized correctly tho? Just wondering because you are saying you are having to hold yourself up....
I second that.
Bike too large?
Then you'll have to re-fit/tweak/if all fails, get a smaller bike.
Bars much lower than saddle?
A good thing aerodynamically but may be too hard on your neck. You may get used to it, then again you may not.
It's a little secret you didn't know about us women. We're all closet Visigoths.
2008 Roy Hinnen O2 - Selle SMP Glider
2009 Cube Axial WLS - Selle SMP Glider
2007 Gary Fisher HiFi Plus - Specialized Alias