I agree with all of those that are telling you to do what you want, not what you think your family wants. You will not please all of them anyway, and really this is about YOU not about them.

I made compramises for my wedding that I wish I had not because I was going for family harmony. Guess what...the family is just as dysfunctional as it was before. The marriage didn't last, but it might be the only wedding I will ever have and I wish that I had just done it all my way.

Barbara Alys