I started with Time pedals and the tension was too tight and I could get in them, but couldn't clip out. I was terrified! We adjusted the tension and I still couldn't get out. I tried Sampson pedals - very light and enjoyed those. Not sure if they make them anymore. I am now using Look pedals for the road bike and Shimano for the mountain bike. I like both. I have a small foot too and its important to get your clip in the right place on your shoe. I suggest you lean your bike against a counter somewhere or put it on a trainer and practice the motion of clipping in and out. Get someone to help guide your foot. When you are out riding on the road, clip out before you get to a stop sign and rest your foot on top of the pedal. that way you don't panic that you're stuck!
I don't suffer from insanity. I enjoy it.