Remembering parent's life

[chicago]

my Dad died many many years ago. I guess the best memory we give to him is that we talk about him often. He died when all us kids were very young... so we have had many years talking about him and the silly things he did with us when we were all small. Also my Mom still talks about him allllllllllllll the time... how they met (just last night I heard "again... for the 1,000,000,000,000,000th time, LOL" about how handsome he looked coming out of that car in that crisp white shirt on their blind date... and how she said to herself "oh wow", LOL!!), and how he proposed, baby stories over and over and how he did everything right but he wouldn't change a diaper for the life of him, LOL!! The stories go on and on... gosh they were so much in love.

I think the best memory is to always keep them alive in our hearts and our minds. I think the worst thing is to think that by "not" talking about a deceased person will make the survivor feel better... that is so not true. Survivor's never forget the deceased... and I don't think for a second, we would ever want to not talk about our lost loved one.

My condolences to your partner and his loss...