Hi Chris, welcome! (I'm from NY too)

I'm hoping I understand you properly.....the pain you describe might happen if the back of your saddle is too narrow for your sitbones to take your weight properly. If your sitbones are wider than the back of your saddle then the middle of your saddle is going to push up into your pelvic area too much and you might then be resting too much weight on those middle/front pair of pelvic bones instead of your rear sitbones.
The key to comfort in saddles is getting your weight onto the right spots. Extra-padded saddles don't necessarily solve pressure problems.
I'm sure others will have more suggestions and ideas....