LOL Kerry, I'm on a couch right now too!! Have been for wayyyy too long, I'm anxiously awaiting a mattress!!
For me, I've been through this with the same guy over and over (for the last 4 years) and right now I'm beating myself up for getting back together with him AGAIN. I can't believe it, I KNOW what he's like. I guess maybe I'm finally understanding the way he is, it affects our relationship to the point where it just can't go anywhere. He is the greatest most fun guy ever when things are good and totally fine between us. But the second we have any stress in the relationship (my god, who doesn't!?!?) he totally cannot cope. He will NEVER express feelings, has no communication skills whatsoever, and it gets totally frustrating. We discussed this before getting back together and his response was that he knew he had to work on that.
So a month or so ago, we had a bit of a fight one night. It wasn't all that bad, god knows I've had worse fights with men! He was annoyed because he said I was in a bad mood, I was kind of, but not that bad. We argued about it and he ended up spouting alllll these things that had been so "horrible" meanwhile I had no idea he had all of this pent up anger. I went to work the next day, thinking ok, we'll try to work it out, and thinking of how we could cope with the things that he had a problem with. I get home, and to my complete surprise, most of his stuff was gone. And so was he. Wow. With no word to me about what he was planning. Quite cowardly if you ask me. So, I guess we're not working things out...
And I say I was surprised, and on the surface level I was, but deep down I knew he was capable of it and had even briefly thought that he might take off. Because in his little world, it's just easier totally not dealing with things. Running away is easy.
I know I'm better off without him as we will never be able to move forward in a relationship if things continue to go that way... bummer, and it hurts, but I'll get over it. Again. I hope I learn this time!!!!
Bike Therapy - I like it!!![]()



Reply With Quote