What a hard thing to do.

I don't remember the actual talk, I don't think there was one when my parents split up. All I remember is being in the lobby of the courthouse when my dad knelt down and asked me who I wanted to live with. Of course that's not an OK thing to say to an overly sensitive 11-year-old.

So I'm sure you guys have the optimal custody idea worked out between you.

I also like the idea of more scheduled time to talk about it. Much better than ignoring the large pachyderm in the room.

Best wishes.