Okay so thanks to another post on here I got the whole seat bone thing figured out. I found a Selle San Marco Glamour Aspide Arrowhead K (womens specific) and I love it. The thing just fits. Its flat and light but the square butt area flexes and gives you freedom for your legs. The nose is narrow so no chafing and the cutout is in the right place. I think this saddle is new and apparently getting very popular for us girls. I did 35 miles the first day on it and forgot it was there. I hope this joy continues as I have a century next month. Just thought I'd share for those in search of the perfect saddle.