Can you just make an excuse and not go? Postpone?

What would they want to discuss? Life insurance or something? Maybe your step-dad wants to reassure you how much he loves you. Wouldn't that be a wonderful thing?

My husband is my two older son's stepdad, since they were 5 and 7. I imagine if we divorced they would still want to have contact with him (as long as the divorce was amicable and he didn't cheat on me or something, in which case they'd be pissed). I would want them to have contact with him. For him, it would be like losing 3 members of his family, not just one. So, perhaps you can try to look at it from their point of view for a while.

Plus, you have a few days to be by yourself and not talk to anyone before you go, don't you? Concentrate your feelings during this time, and then plan lots of shopping with your sister or something while at your parents'.

Sorry you're feeling so poorly about it. Hope it gets better for you.

Karen