I'm listening to NPR and just heard a snippet that made me think of this post. NoNo, you might be interested in listening to it - if only to know you aren't alone in the struggle.

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/s...oryId=17779492

Also, in regards to your last post: Your family doesn't need to know everything that goes on in your life. You're a grown woman and you get to decide what information they have deemed themselves worthy of - being related doesn't give them an automatic free-for-all access pass to your life. It sounds like you're on the verge of seeing their words for what they really are. I'm certain that if you went to therapy (regardless of any illness in your family), the outcome would not be validation that the therapy made you like the rest of them...but rather, it would be a means to ensure that you are NOT like them. Unhealthy family cycles have to end somewhere - and they don't end until we take the steps to be the first stagger that changes the pattern.

Good luck!