Jam,
There are some books out there I haven't found any that beat this forum, I've learned so much from the gals here. I've mentioned to TE admin that (with permission to quote the women here of course) they should put together a book of "the wit and wisdom of TE", with Spazzdog as editor of course.
I think the next great book about women cycling is right here.
As for the LBS one of the things I look for in a shop is they don't talk down to me, and they don't talk over my head either. You're not an idiot, if your shop makes you feel like one is there another shop?