I have had fibromyalgia for a long time. I can try to answer some of your questions.

I don't know anything in particular about Lyrica, but would just want to mention that they have to list all reported side effects--doesn't mean everyone or even most people get them. I know you know that but it's nice to remind yourself after you read those scary side effect lists.

Some of the odder places where I have fibromyalgia-related pain at times---throat cartilage, ear cartilage.

You didn't really ask a question about the exercise thing, but moderate is better than extreme, although it doesn't mean you can't slowly work back up to where you were. It just means you should avoid exhausting yourself. I had to quit ballet after I developed fibromyalgia because ballet clearly set off major muscle pain spirals that went on for many months. But I can ride a bike 100 miles and a tandem 200 miles in a day. Best bet is to slowly work out over time what you can do and what seems to make you feel worse.

It doesn't sound like the rheumatologists think you're crazy, either.

I found acupuncture helpful for several days after a treatment for severe muscle pain, but no more than that.

I never became really disabled from fibromyalgia--that is, never had to stop working or being active, never came close to being bedridden by it. But I have heard about other people this did happen to. So I would try very hard not to go in that direction. If full time work is too much, perhaps part time would work--but not working at all may make you feel pretty bad. I would try to stay active and engaged and having fun, listening to your body so you know when it's time to take a break.