Realty check - body image

[Grog]

I come out of the closet as one who likes very well-fitted bras, despite (or because) of my 34A(or AA, thanks to cycling and running...)-sized chest. Little I have, I like to be have wrapped in a pretty AND comfortable bra.

I LOVE going to an actual lingerie store with a true professional attendant who will size me properly. There is a very nice store right next to a good bike shop here in Vancouver: you can get fitted on your bike on one side, and in a nice bra on the other. Both are equally important to me!

I find that, for body-image purposes, it's better to have great clothes that fit you NOW than to have clothes that you hope will fit you well in the future. That way, when you look at yourself, you can say 'Wow' and not be constantly reminded that you're not the size you'd like to be. No matter what size you are, you are gorgeous, and your clothes should emphasize that (but not steal the show).

Plus: Too-tight bras create an "overflow" problem that shows through clothing, especially buttoned shirts (not so much for heavy sweaters of course). What is the purpose of getting nice suits if the base layer is neglected?

Properly fitted underwear does a lot for my self-confidence. I really hate having to pull at a too big/small piece of underwear as I walk to the front of a room to give a talk. It's not that important to look good, but I find that it's a great confidence-booster in critical moments.

Nice, well-fitted bras are not necessarily that expensive. I'm sure your friend can help you find something good in the $50 range, and, if not, visit a good lingerie store. Those that have been around for a while usually have lots of older models in the backstore, organized by size. They're the best!

And if you come around Vancouver soon, I'll gladly take you bra-shopping!!!!