Ahh Gel Pads! Louis Garneau makes a gel pad chamois that is heaven! I have LG bibs that have the gel chamois and I hate wearing anything else(but I often have to, since I normally ride in my kit).

Try a Fi'zik, I have the Vitesse HP and I really like it, I used to ride with a Fi'zik men's aliante sport(until it got stolen). I am a huge fan of Fi'ziks. But... I do still get cysts in the nether regions! I get mine when I am riding in the drops a lot(same as you getting them from being in aero), but when I bought my new saddle(the vitesse) I also tried a Specialized Jett, and I could not stand how the saddle felt. I took it out for a short hour spin and ended up trading saddles with my ex and riding the rest of the way back in his.
The Vitesse I tried on the trainer(we stuck it on the new bike while I was doing my fitting) and I fell in love with it.

So definitaly give it a try, and don't be afraid to try the men's saddles also! I feel that I am just as happy with the women's as I was with the mans.