When I bought my bike it took about 4 weeks of visiting all the LBS. Like you I had no idea what was a really good feel - I mean what to compare to? I rode about 4 bikes & was almost about to buy a Scott, then saw my EMC2, asked the guy about it- was in my price range, got on & was "in love". Can't say what was different, but it felt like I belonged right on that seat. Even still the set up has been tweaked since the initial fit. Keep looking & keep test riding. the more test rides you have the better idea you'll have.

PS I agree "reluctantly" isn't the best way to start a relationship.