Quote Originally Posted by Kano View Post
Mel,

are you SURE it's Riding Buddy that your husband is upset about?

Is your husband sure it's Riding Buddy that he's upset about?

Here's something entirely different to think about:

You've started riding on ROADS instead of trails. Roads are filled with CARS, and CARS are big, go real fast, and let's face it, if there's any sort of confrontation between a car and a bicycle, the car will win.

Is it possible that "I don't like you riding with Riding Buddy" is a way to avoid admitting "I'm scared crapless that something could happen to you while you're out there on the roads" ???

Karen in Boise
I think this is a VERY valid point, and something that you need to talk with your husband about; we've got a couple of guys that we (together) ride with, and there are no issues, but he won't let me ride with them alone. Not a jealousy issue, but his fear that these guys aren't going to be as protective of me as he will be.

Of course, if there are other, deeper issues, then you've GOT to talk with him about that, too. Guys often clam up about 'sensitive' topics, but he's got to understand that if you two are to continue to grow as adults, you've got to talk about tough issues, and get to the root of them.

Not easy. I know. (Heck, it took my husband 3 tries/wives before he learned that talking about stuff rather than dwelling on it was a GOOD thing. Hopefully your husband won't learn it the hard way! )