I used a little advice from each of you. I sent an email and said we were discussing that we hadn't seen him since he picked his stuff up. that's unusual and we wanted to check up on him. BTW, how's that stuff working out for you. He responded "Are you collecting your husband's debts now". I just responded that we have been starving since loaning the money, but drop it by anytime. Actually I wanted to collect and spend it and never tell my husband. No response. I have dropped the hint. My husband would be mortified if he knew.