Hi Susita,

I think that this is making an enjoyable activity be really stressful, at least it would be to me. I realize that people ride at different paces just by nature but but there's no reason for him to put all this pressure on you.

I've had situations where I've ridden slower and I've also had times when I'm the faster rider. When I'm slower, if the person wants to go ahead that's ok, we will regroup. Right now with my husband, I'm the faster rider because he is new to cycling. What I'm doing is riding behind him and going at his pace, for now. He's getting used to clipless pedals and being on a bike and all sorts of things.

I kind of wonder how he is ok with the fact you have hurt yourself trying to stay up. Maybe it's better to find other people to ride with and then when the two of you ride, make sure it's understood that it is social and not competitive.

Good luck --