loaner to couple: desperately seeking advice

[shootingstar]

I personally know quite a few couples who have been together for years, but live in separate homes. They see each other exclusively, overnight at each other's places, vacation together, attend family gatherings as a couple, but by living in their own places, they still have that alone time and keep their own space to themselves. It can work that way for you, if that is what you both want.

Part of making a relationship work, is compromise, but it has to be by both people. Take small steps, see how it feels, then decide whether to back up, stay there for awhile, or take the next small step....... wash - rinse - repeat :-)

Edna (ps: knowing you both, I'm thinking it's gonna work out just fine)

We're were like that TS, before we both moved to Vancouver. I bought my own home about 6 months before he entered into my life. I had sort of 'given up' meeting any special guy in my life.

But after knowing him more, it was really a matter of independence and personal pride for me to keep, live in for several years and pay for my own home. I'm so glad I did this..it was important to me ..for self-growth.

When there is no biological ticking...you have tons of time to know each other.

[evangundy]

So, curious minds wanna know - how are things going? Yes, it's none of my business, and you don't hafta tell me. Just wondering because I care.
Edna
PS: do you have any idea how hard it has been to not tell anyone else? But I have been good, and told no one :-)

[TsPoet]

So, curious minds wanna know - how are things going? Yes, it's none of my business, and you don't hafta tell me. Just wondering because I care.
Edna
PS: do you have any idea how hard it has been to not tell anyone else? But I have been good, and told no one :-)

Thanks, I knew I could count on you, or I wouldn't have posted.
We aren't a secret, He told Mandy and ? the other guy who crewed for Alex - and that was about the same time I figured it out, LOL.
Actually it's going quite well, we went up to Mozama last weekend and spent 3.5 days together, that's a true test at this point in my life.
We just got back from riding our bikes to grocery shop. He bought 2 cases of beer. Gotta love a guy who can carry 2 cases of beer on an xtracycle up the hill we have to ride up.

[Irulan]

you guys having a party?