I rarely think about which ring I'm using, I just go by feel. I have a cadence I'm accustomed to, but I'll try to push myself every now and then just to feel what spinning feels like, and what slow pedalling feels like. If you feel that you've already found a cadence that is efficient, maintains your speed, and feels comfortable, you're doing it right. Your preferred cadence may change as you ride more, and on different terrain, but people do have different inherent preferences. I don't like sprinting either, but I do it a bit more now than I used to.
(I'm assuming you're not racing here, and he's not acting as your coach. )
Winter riding is much less about badassery and much more about bundle-uppery. - malkin
1995 Kona Cinder Cone commuterFrankenbike/Selle Italia SLR Lady Gel Flow
2008 white Nakamura Summit Custom mtb/Terry Falcon X
2000 Schwinn Fastback Comp road bike/Specialized Jett