Well, I don't consider myself some mega seasoned rider, but I have had that pain. Whew... not fun. OK, a couple things come to mind...
Does your bike fit you? Correct frame size etc.? Have you been properly fitted, adjusted, etc. on your bike by a professional?
My old roadie girl was WAY too big for me. Much adjusting, many saddles, etc. never fixed it. Finally found a good fitter (as part suggestion from here on TE). The short of it was with my too big frame and too long top tube, I was always rolled too far forward on my pubic bone.
The aero bars put you in more rolled forward position. I'm not really qualified here to tell you all about the diff set ups for true tri bikes etc. But there are certain things that make that position work.
My new roadie girl is an Orbea Dama Onix TDF (*2* frame sizes smaller than my old bike). I upgraded my saddle model a bit to the tri-gel version.
Funny, I had tried a few Terry saddles on my old too big ride and hated them. Now, I love my saddle. It was the too big bike and rolling forward that was the issue... not all those saddles I tried and trashed. Though, saddle choice is VERY individual. I was shocked when I got off the test ride bike to see it was a Terry I had put on my "saddle hate" list previously.
I would start by getting a good fitting. Even if that means going to a diff shop besides where you bought your bike. Some of my lbs experiences have not been so great. This last bike was a 5hour round trip for the shop.
Btw... "no" you are not the first person to post about this pain...
To be exact... this very same type of post is what drove me to find the TE forum. Nothing like introducing yourself to peeps in sobbing desperation by starting out "hi... my name is Miranda... and I have bleeding abrasions on my labia minora.... for the love of gawd, someone help me... cuz I'm gettin no where with the lbs that took my $...".
Hope something works out soon!



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