The Emotional Rollercoaster of Menopause

**Tuckervill** · 01-28-2009, 04:07 PM

I think that's just wonderful. Not awe-inspiring, but so true. I think the people who live the longest just don't sweat all that small stuff...it's all small stuff!

Karen

Originally Posted by Biciclista

sure, i can put a positive spin on it. If you're lucky, as you age, you will become wiser. You will learn to appreciate the good things of life and accept the things you can not change. Like it or not, we're all getting older, or we're not. Those that aren't die. those are the choices. get old or die.
The way i figure it, the ones that get the oldest while staying healthy win!

Pretty soon you're going to figure out that your looks are not permanent, your hair is not permanent your bones are not permanent. Enjoy what you have while you can and use it to the fullest.

At a certain point, we're going to slow down. I'm 57 and I haven't started slowing down yet (aside from the personal stuff i divulged earlier) .
You start figuring out what is important and what is not.

I love the perspective I have gained for being this age. how about that.

**Red Rock** · 01-29-2009, 07:27 AM

I have been reading this tread through time here and it makes think "oh what fun I am will have in the future." Except I dont know if it has already started to happen? I just turned 40 and I have had periodic night sweats. They are sporadic at this point. My DH wants to cuddle and his heat plus mine, I feel like I'm going to shoot through the roof! So that is not helping much. I have not noticed any other signs or symptoms.

Is it safe to say when you are in your 50's that is when it really begins? Of course everyone is different and on their own schedule of things. I'm just thinking generalities here.

Red Rock

**Biciclista** · 01-29-2009, 07:45 AM

no, it started for me in my early 40's. it stops usually in your 50's

i like hotflashes, I think they're hilarious. while they're happening, i think,
ah, this is what it's like to be a hot blooded person. Then it goes away
and i throw my blankets back over myself and go back to sleep.

**OakLeaf** · 01-29-2009, 07:48 AM

Originally Posted by Biciclista

i like hotflashes, I think they're hilarious. while they're happening, i think,
ah, this is what it's like to be a hot blooded person. Then it goes away
and i throw my blankets back over myself and go back to sleep.

Ha, sounds like me.

Just a brief respite from being freezing.

**Red Rock** · 01-29-2009, 08:05 AM

Thankyou Biciclista. At least I can say that I am not going crazy about this. I guess I will have to speak to dear hubby on this one.

Red Rock

**jesvetmed** · 01-29-2009, 09:37 AM

Red Rock: I think I'm with you -- probably "early peri-menopause". I have night sweats which are worsening when they do happen, but luckily only average once a week. I also have occasional heart palpitations (had them checked out before and all was normal), but I have noticed them more often lately, totally unstressed in my life so no real reason to attribute them to.

For the first time in my life I will wake up after only 5 hours of sleep and be wide awake for some reason. My sex drive is down, and my periods are irregular (unfortunately more frequent and heavier

). I was blaming the fibroids, but maybe I have to admit it is more than that! And honestly, what kind of sex drive can you have when you have cramps and bloating three weeks out of four?!

I just figured I was getting older and crankier - maybe I have an excuse! Overall it's all ok, but I am SICK of having periods. I'm on low dose birth control pills, but I think possibly too low!? If I am off by even a few hours, I start a period. Even if I've just finished one three days ago! Ugh.

**jesvetmed** · 01-29-2009, 09:38 AM

Oh.. meant to say "THANKS" to all of you -- these discussions are always very informative and helpful. I'm glad to have this to read!

**Biciclista** · 01-29-2009, 10:31 AM

Jesvetmed,
see your doctor, that really sounds excessive!

**BleeckerSt_Girl** · 01-29-2009, 10:45 AM

Originally Posted by Biciclista

Jesvetmed,
see your doctor, that really sounds excessive!

I second that- sounds abnormal. See your doctor/gyno.

Red Rock-
everyone is very different! I am a late one- I'm 54 and have not had any menopausal symptoms yet, and according to a recent blood test I have not even started menopause yet. Go figure!

**jesvetmed** · 01-29-2009, 01:15 PM

Thanks, all. I did... Fibroids. We are ultrasounding again in a few months, but there weren't any changes in them at last checkup. We've been messing with different BC options, some have been better than others at controlling the periods. My next option is the IU implant mentioned in many previous posts here. I guess the theory is that if you can get by without too much trouble until menopause, then the fibroids go away. We'll see... I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

Back to the regularly scheduled menopause thread!

**Red Rock** · 01-29-2009, 02:52 PM

Bleeker-good for you on not having any symptoms yet. May you live long and prosper in your happy state

Jes-glad everything is ok. I have had an irreular heart beat since my first husband died. So I have seen a cardioologist for that and its under control.

I was on BC at one point in my life and it made me so photosensitve it drove me crazy. I do not know if I have remnants from that now. My timing on periods has been ok. No real drasic changes. I'm with you all on the decrease in sexual drive though. I just want to go to sleep and DH wants to do other things. Arrgh!

Red Rock

**Aint Doody** · 01-29-2009, 03:47 PM

Sex drive??? What the heck is a sex drive? I'm 60, and it seems that I sorta remember having one.

**OakLeaf** · 01-29-2009, 03:52 PM

When I was in my 30s I kept reading how menopause brings a resurgence of sex drive to women who no longer have to worry about pregnancy. I'm glad to hear from you-all that I'm not just a freak. In the old sense of that word, definitely not the new one.

**OakLeaf** · 02-04-2009, 05:05 PM

Here's some commentary on "bioidentical" hormones from the National Women's Health Network. Short version: no safer than pharmaceutical hormones, and whatever you think of pharmaceutical regulation (not much, in my opinion or NWHN's), they're completely unregulated. There's another comment today on their blog.

**Crankin** · 02-04-2009, 05:22 PM

Actually, I don't believe my sex drive has changed. What hurt it was the fact that it was painful. Now that the problem is taken care of, I don't feel any differently than I did in my 30s. What has changed is the importance it plays in my life. I guess I'm lucky my husband feels the same.
Sometimes, we would rather take a ride....

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