Just curious

**sarahfixit** · 08-09-2005, 05:13 AM

There is a thread going on the cyclingforum about sex and its effect on racing. Unfortunately its all guys takes on it. It got me wondering what our side of the fence says, since I don't have a whole lot of practice there myself

**nicolezoie** · 08-09-2005, 08:14 AM

Originally Posted by sarahfixit

There is a thread going on the cyclingforum about sex and its effect on racing. Unfortunately its all guys takes on it. It got me wondering what our side of the fence says, since I don't have a whole lot of practice there myself

My boyfriend recently got concerned with this with me because I've all but lost interest lately. Seems the harder I ride, the more tender my parts become, and I end up not wanting any. Friends of mine who don't ride don't understand, and think I'm riding too much because I've lost interest in "normal" stuff.

Some smartasses even went so far as to suggest that I ride my bike more than my boyfriend...!

It doesn't help that I've got an extra sensitive system, and I tend towards itchyness from the slightest "environmental" change. Frankly I don't have sex often enough for my body to adjust to the change, so every time I *do* have sex I get itchy. Even if I pee and am careful to wash afterwards.

However, when I am feeling OK, I have a TON of energy, stamina, and last quite awhile. Back before my boyfriend lost his left arm, he was seriously getting into cycling, and he found the same things with himself. Sex was *better* because we both were in really good shape. But, he was in a car accident that cost him his left arm almost a year ago, so things have been VERY different with us since then. He hasn't been able to bike since the accident.

**Grog** · 08-09-2005, 07:46 PM

Random thoughts.

I don't have that much experience on the topic because my partner left me about 3 months after I started riding more seriously and longer distances, which was sometime in June, and my sex-life has been rather quiet since. :I

However: I did find that the time in the saddle made my girly parts tender and less interested in sex (while I could be - but my tissues maybe were not necessarily agreeing) and it seemed the other way around too: the saddle felt less comfortable after sex!! It was not a very big issue though because otherwise everything was great on that aspect. Tons of different activities can be fun after cycling (AND a shower)!!!

As for racing (which I haven't tried yet), I can easily imagine that sex (before) would give me more energy for riding hard and fast. After, I'd feel too aloof I guess (unless I won?? - very unlikely!!)

Exercise gives you lots of (natural) endorphins and like most drugs it can satisfy you to the point that you don't need to get "high" on something else (sex for example)...

I'm curious to read the other gal's opinion on this!!

**Kimred** · 08-09-2005, 07:58 PM

I've been racing for two years now. And quite frankly the night before a race sex is the last thing on my mind. I worry about getting sleep!!! Making sure I have my bike,gear,breakfast all set. Usually I have to get up very early. I just never have thought about it. My hubby is usually sleeping too since we both get up early. If we did I don't think it would effect my performance. Unless I did really bad that day maybe I could use it for an excuse!! LOL!

Also biking can make parts more tender. Just takes a little more work to get things going. In general being fit gives me more energy and I feel better about myself in bed and out!

**Tess851** · 08-10-2005, 04:23 PM

hmmm. I don't have too much trouble with my delicate bits being too tender etc, though sometimes it is uncomfortable / tender and the mere thought of sex makes me cross my legs

Like others who've responded, I sometimes find the 'environmental' changes man I'm not as comfortable on the bike for a day or two.

I haven't had a great deal of interest in sex for a while (years), feeling that it's sometimes just another chore to get done in my busy little life. I've been with the same guy on and off for about five years, and figured it had more to do with that than cycling, as my interest in cycling and the level at which I ride has gone from purely recreational to full road and track seasons over those five years.

I find cycling itself can actually be a turn on - you know those days when you have a great ride, good company, endorphins flowing etc and somehow sex doesn't seem like a bad idea at all

**Tess851** · 08-10-2005, 04:29 PM

Because of cycling I have a very different lifestyle to my friends and boyfriend. I can be in bed by 8-8.30pm, up at 4am, work full time, come home, feed animals, cook dinner, do laundry, get gear ready for the following day, pick up groceries etc. He stays up late, gets up late, does no actual exercise (which means while he's breathless after sex, my heart rates probably barely gone up

) - - No, I've never worn a heart rate monitor during the act!.

His sex drive has always been greater than mine, and he gets bugged by my cycling because he feels he's on the list below the bikes and the animals. I feel that his being bugged by what is such a passion for me affects our sex life more than the cycling itself.

**Tess851** · 08-10-2005, 04:32 PM

Last thing on my mind before or after events is sex. I just want to focus and save energy (not that sex has to always be particularly energetic....), and afterwards just tune out and relax totally and not have to cater to someone else's sex drive. (maybe I'm just too self centred)

I've read that women need to not think during sex and the sex will be better. am I the only one who's busy and often running through what I need to do / get done and find it hard to switch off?

Overall though, I've yet to make up my mind on the debate of whether or not cycling is better than sex.....

**bikerchick68** · 08-11-2005, 12:30 PM

OK... I've been divorced for 8 months so it's been a while but what I remember is that my girly parts were not as sensitive to stimulation... almost like they were borderline numb sometimes... it makes it take longer to reach the happy place... and quickies went out the window... just wasn't happening anymore...

**Tess851** · 08-11-2005, 07:46 PM

hey sarah, what do the guys actually say? (I've had a quick look at the forum, but didn't find the right thread.....)

**singletrackmind** · 08-12-2005, 05:38 AM

I'm almost always up for it pre-race. For post-

If I had a great kick ***/take names ride it transfers.......sometimes I feel like a huntress with a taste for male.

If it was one of those super long rides with the good kind of tired feeling I feel like a little lazy, languorous sex.

If I got bashed to pieces and feel all kicked to heII then you stay in your corner of the room and I'll stay in mine!

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