How to deal with a petty boss? (Long post, sorry!)

[pll]

I guess I will offer my two cents:

• Finding a job is easiest when you have one (i.e. prospective employers take your current job as a signal that you have marketable skills).
• If you are taking classes in a university, consider looking for a research assistantship or work study opportunities. Faculty are frequently looking for RAs and you may have scarce skills: foreign languages? good with Excel, some programming or scripting language? can create web pages? Foreign languages can be an asset in research in history or the social sciences (including business school faculty). I would suggest drafting cover letters and dropping your resume strategically in mailboxes in various departments in the university and the dean's office in each school. You may even target professors whose work you think is interesting.

[Veronica]

I've been reading this the last few times as "How to deal with a pretty boss?"

Give her a black eye or a fat lip?

Tell her she looks great in the dingy mustard shirt she's wearing that makes her look awful in reality?

V.

[Lifesgreat]

Life's too short. Get out while you can.

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[PinkBike]

I've been reading this the last few times as "How to deal with a pretty boss?"

Give her a black eye or a fat lip?

Tell her she looks great in the dingy mustard shirt she's wearing that makes her look awful in reality?

V.

V, you crack me up!

[tc1]

Been there, done that with two psycho male bosses. Polish up your resume, get a letter of recommendation and leave. Once the boss is telling lies about you for whatever reason you are history.

[Mr. Bloom]

Move on...there's a lot more downside than upside in this situation

[KnottedYet]

Leaving a job like this is the mature response.

Just get out, before it gets worse and you get taken down (or taken to jail as the sociopathic behaviour of the male boss escalates).

[withm]

Run. Run away. Run as fast as you can.

These people are not your friends. They are not worthy of sane employees. They will never ever react in normal or expected ways to anything you do. And if you stay you will have to deal with poor and irrational behavior 24 hours a day. There is no relationship here that is worth saving.

NO JOB is worth that kind of crap.

If they treat people that badly, even having their company on your resume may be a detriment to your future. They probably have a list of disgruntled employees, vendors, subs, and clients a mile long. You don't need to be a part of that.

Get out now!

Good luck.

[KnottedYet]

If they treat people that badly, even having their company on your resume may be a detriment to your future. They probably have a list of disgruntled employees, vendors, subs, and clients a mile long. You don't need to be a part of that.

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I was part of a hiring process where someone had a "bad" company on their resume. And yes, it did hurt them in applying for the job with us.

[sundial]

The benefits of your current job are:

upset stomach
thinning hair
tension
micromanagement
passive aggressive behavior
lowered self esteem
distrust

OK, now for the upside to this career:

perseverance in looking for a career change

Your health is your wealth.

[Fujichants]

Thanks for your replies everybody! I really appreciate it. I would rather be broke and be able to ride my bike more, than be stuck in a horrible work place with those people.

Time to polish up the resume! I don't think I am going to put this job on there, since i've only been there since March. I was working full-time in Singapore and Indonesia before then, so that should count as some valuable work experience!

I just have to make sure to deposit my final paycheck and make sure it goes through, because these people are known to put a stop payment on checks or just close the bank account and open a new one. Not to mention, I just found out the business hasn't been incorporated in the state of California since they NEVER paid taxes on it. So basically its illegal. I am SO OUT OF THERE!

[ACG]

What they have created for you is a hostile work environment. The fact that you have had to endure a more heated workplace since his affair, leads in a way to 3rd party sexual harassment. I'm not a lawyer.

So as everyone else has said, look for another job and leave. Quietly and professionally.

While looking for a job, you don't have to divulge to the perspective employer the sordid old employers behavior and you don't have to give them permission to call the old employer either. Though some places will do this after they hire you.

You can just say it is a small company and they are having growing pains.

I would at the very end, once you have found a job, ask boss lady for a letter of recommendation. She has no obligation to give you one, but it doesn't hurt to ask.

But leave and do it soon.

[pll]

Thanks for your replies everybody! I really appreciate it. I would rather be broke and be able to ride my bike more, than be stuck in a horrible work place with those people.

Time to polish up the resume! I don't think I am going to put this job on there, since i've only been there since March. I was working full-time in Singapore and Indonesia before then, so that should count as some valuable work experience!

I just have to make sure to deposit my final paycheck and make sure it goes through, because these people are known to put a stop payment on checks or just close the bank account and open a new one. Not to mention, I just found out the business hasn't been incorporated in the state of California since they NEVER paid taxes on it. So basically its illegal. I am SO OUT OF THERE!

Wow, I now agree with many here: time to run! A bad job in an "informal" business, that may not honor a payment.... ride, ride away!

[Triskeliongirl]

Wise move to quit. It sounds like a horrible situation.

I second the idea of trying to get a job at your University. Both of my kids got jobs doing research with their professors, part time during school year and full time during summer. Much better resume builder and it pays the bills.

[sundial]

I am SO OUT OF THERE!

Let us know when your last day is so we can help celebrate.