Hubby is mad that I won't ride......

[Eden]

Did I miss something? Where did he talk about a squashy saddle?

Though I do agree with you 1,000 and 1%+ about squashy saddles.

I'll admit I've made a few assumptions - my hubby is a Selle Italia devotee.. they tend towards pretty severly minimal saddles in their racing line, so I kind of read between the lines of Georgia Girls frustrations and took away that hubby has very likely said this saddle type (hard rather than soft) is more comfortable and this saddle is comfortable for me, so there's no reason it shouldn't be comfortable than you..... but what he has forgotten is that she most likely needs a wider saddle... the men's Selle line also tends to run very narrow...

[Grog]

I feel your pain (not literally thankfully!!).

Just because your husband knows-it-all doesn't mean that he can fit your bike properly for you. Obviously the bike is NOT properly fitted because you are resting your weight on your soft tissue instead of your sitbones. It's normal to have some soreness on the sitbones when you start riding. It's NOT normal to have numb genitals.

Your saddle could be perfectly fine, but too far back on the bike, or your stem is too long, causing you to stretch too much and rest your weight on your anatomical soft spot.

I would suggest going to a bike shop you trust - on your own, unless your husband can really just be quiet, even in his non-verbal language - and getting yourself fitted, and getting your sitbones on a saddle of the right width. Perhaps your current saddle will be just fine once it's properly located on the bike. Perhaps not, and then you get to shop for a new one.

If you're not fitted properly, you can switch saddles all you want, you may never be comfortable, and never enjoy riding.

Good luck. It shouldn't hurt like that and good for you for trying to get it fixed.

[Zen]

it's the umm...can't say this delicately...my other area that hurts...goes numb.

Labia majora?
Labia minora?
Perineum?
Twinkie?

[SadieKate]

Thanks, Zen, I don't quite understand why clinical terms are so difficult to use. It certainly takes the guess work out of the conversation.

[Zen]

and maybe find yourself someone else to ride with who's a little less...pushy. at least until you feel more comfortable.

[salsabike]

Twinkie, THAT'S it.

I agree with Grog and all the others. It is very important that you get a bike fit done by an expert, and it probably would go best if you went by yourself so you could feel free to say, Hey, it hurts THERE; can you fix that? THEN you can set about making saddle decisions, and you may well want to change at that point.

[bouncybouncy]

Twinkie?

my hubby may actually think of the pastry...then it would lead into a whole 'nother dicussion!

who-ha!
that is what it is 'round here...

[motochick]

I have nothing in the way of advice to add as everyone else has pretty much covered it....but, I have 2 selle italia lady gel flow saddles lying around that I do not need anymore. They worked great for me on rides under 50 miles but now that my mileage has increased, I have switched to a selle an-atomica. If you would like to try the gel flow, I will ship one to you at no cost and you can give it a whirl. You don't need to feel like you have to buy it or anything, I am just trying to help you out. PM me if you are interested.

Brenda

[Kalidurga]

I'll second Zen's suggestion. Maybe find some women to ride with until you've gained more experience. That way, know-it-all hubby might see you making the effort to get into cycling, and you'll be in a less intimidating atmosphere in which to ask questions and learn.

[gnat23]

It wasn't until I got the proper saddle that I realized that I could ride my bike *and* have sex (not at the same time, of course, silly). I mean, that I didn't have to decide between enjoying one or the other.

I'm usually don't advocate withholding sex from a significant other to get what you want, but you probably have a pretty good case in order to get the proper saddle for this one. If it hoits, it hoits. And that's that.

-- gnat!

[Wahine]

Gnat beat me to it. I am firmly against with holding sex (mostly because I would suffer more) but I have used that line when justifying a new saddle purchase or fit adjustment. And not because I'm being manipulative but because I simply could not tolerate sex because of chaffing and pain. One thing I can say for sure is that he stops bugging me about spending money on a saddle when I bring the topic up.

[Starfish]

So, your hubby posts here on TE? What, pray tell, is his user name?

And, +1 here to so many things already mentioned: bike fit, new saddle, etc. You do not need a controlling husband's permission to go try out as many saddles as it takes to find the right one for you.

[mimitabby]

So, your hubby posts here on TE? What, pray tell, is his user name?

And, +1 here to so many things already mentioned: bike fit, new saddle, etc. You do not need a controlling husband's permission to go try out as many saddles as it takes to find the right one for you.

finally someone asks the question we all want to know!!


btw, Welcome to TE! as you can see, we're a lively bunch filled with great ideas and experience, and we're on YOUR side.

[Starfish]

"Thanks julie once the computer gets fixed ill show her. also thanks Eden, I use looks and have always used them but i was wondering if theres are some pedals that are easier to get in and out of as far as shoes sounds like mountain bike will work for her. and the speed plays look easier . just trying to make everything comfortable for her so she wont wanna quit"

OK, so this is a cut and paste from GeorgiaGirl's hubby when he was asking about which pedals might be best.

So...there isn't much more important than not having one's clitoris or other genitalia screaming in pain while riding, to promote sticking with cycling.

[mimitabby]

OH, he posted using HER user name.