Under the Knife - Please TE send some good thoughts to my BIL

**spokewench** · 08-12-2007, 05:56 AM

Originally Posted by Mr. Silver

How old is he? Is he physically strong?

Sadly Mr. Silver he is an overweight person and is not very physically fit so he has an uphill battle at best. I guess we all make our choices in life!

**spokewench** · 08-12-2007, 06:01 AM

Originally Posted by margo49

Sad news indeed.
Thoughts and prayers continuing.

Please can you give me (us) a name. First name will do - I am a bit spiritually challenged you know and "it" does seem to go better if I can put a name in there. And maybe a little story about him that is typical of who he is, what he does or how he does it - just a few lines...

Hartman or Heartman as we often refer to him when writing is a wonderful, giving, Native American man. He has more friends than anyone I know because of his wonderful nature and has been very successful in his career life. He was one of those people who made it past his upbringing, going to Harvard, Stanford and then onto a wonderful and challenging career where he uses his friendly and optimistic personality daily. He is an extraordinary person.

**DDH** · 08-12-2007, 08:23 AM

So sorry to hear that things did not turn out as everyone had hoped and prayed.
It makes me so sad.

My heart goes out to you and your family. Please keep us updated on how he is doing.

**emily_in_nc** · 08-12-2007, 10:04 AM

SW,

I am so sorry to hear this news. My DH's best friend Chris died of this horrible disease this past March at age 49, leaving behind a wife and four children. He was optimistic and cheerful up until the end. He was unfortunately not diagnosed until the cancer reached Stage 4 due to lack of health insurance, and as a result, it spread to his liver and finally his lungs, despite surgery, multiple chemo and radiation treatments. He lived for several years after his initial diagnosis and surgery, though, must longer than the doctors ever predicted. He was an inspirational man to all those who knew him.

For all those here over 50 or younger with symptoms or a family history, get a colonoscopy! It's so important.

You and your entire family will be in my thoughts....

Emily

**bcipam** · 08-13-2007, 12:37 PM

Emily you beat me to it - about getting a colonscopy. Please do it if after 50 or if you have a family history.

Spoke - Take heart with your BIL - medicine nowadays is amazing. If he still has some liver function he should be OK. Hopefully the cancer is removed and chemo will deal with the rest.

Be strong for your sister. She'll need it. Be an ear fr your BIL. He'll need to be able to speak his mind freely in the coming months in order to deal with the fear. Family and friends are powerful medicine. So is prayer. Take special care.

**abvnx** · 08-13-2007, 01:35 PM

spokewench, im so sorry. you and your family will remain in my prayers. ((hugs))

**Ninabike** · 08-13-2007, 02:29 PM

Spokewrench, just noticed this thread. I am so sorry to hear of the news. So many good people are afflicted with cancer and it is so devastating to the cancer patient and to family. My thoughts and prayers are with your BIL and you and your family.

**michelem** · 08-13-2007, 02:59 PM

Jan,

I am so sorry. We went through something similar with my aunt at the end of 2005/beginning of 2006. Please let me know if you have any questions about treatment, disease progression, or whatnot. In hindsight, I should have gotten some extra emotional support for myself. Hopefully you are better at this than I was! Hang in there . . . and take care of YOU.

**caligal** · 08-13-2007, 05:39 PM

Thoughts and prayers from here in MI.

Mel

**Wahine** · 08-13-2007, 07:22 PM

Spoke - my heart goes out to you in your family. You have a very tough road ahead. And while I do believe in miracles, from what you've described, the probabilities are not good. I have had a little too much practice dealing with this type of illness in a family member and I would emphasize what some others have said...

Be a good listener, an honest listener for Heartman. People in his situation need someone to talk to that will speak openly about things.

Be a good listener for your sister. Be a strong physical presence for her.

Take care of yourself and ask for help. The hardest thing for me to learn was to accept the offers of help from others and to let them know what I needed. I also learned that this a pay it forward system. The people that help you will not feel like you owe them anything. They will hope that one day you'll be able to help someone in a similar way. But it's your turn now to receive.

Sending wishes for the best possible outcome.

**rocknrollgirl** · 08-14-2007, 08:44 AM

I am so sorry to hear the news. Every day with him is now a gift, treasure the time. My Mom had 4 years from her initial diagnosis of stage III cancer, and I cherished every moment.

I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

**short cut sally** · 08-14-2007, 09:03 AM

SW, I'm posting in late here sorry. I am thinking of you and your family. Tough times are ahead, rely on each other for strength. We will all be here for you..

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