Yep, saddles are a great mystery to me. The ones that look comfortable at first glance (soft, gel, cushy...) just aren't. The one I ride (see sig) looks like a torture device- it's hard and thin, just a tad of give in the shell, (actually not a 'woman's' comfort saddle but a mens/unisex racing), is the most comfortable saddle I have ever ridden. I even ride it on my MTB and with all the jarring, I sit with a happy arse
. And when I take into account that I have no rear- all my extra poundage goes right to the middle, not the buns, it's not like I have internal padding already. Go figure.
I had a Terry Butterfly. Yea, ouch. My rear sank into the gush till it hit bottom and there was pressure everywhere. Finding your comfortable saddle is like finding the Holy Grail. Some search for years. I've been riding, on and off since the 80s and have tried saddle after saddle and my current one is the first I can say I can sit on all day.
I would suggest getting a sizing. Yep, sit on the but-o-meter thingy at the LBS or sit on a piece of paper on the edge of the bed or exercise mat to get an impression of your sit-bone width. Then start by looking at saddles that are at least sized correctly for you. Don't be afraid to look 'outside the box', I never would have found the saddle I love if I did not gather the courage to sit on it.
As kermit said already, check out the gear section, but remember, one person's crappy saddle is another's greatest joy.
Tzvia- rollin' slow...
Specialized Ruby Expert/mens Bontrager Inform RXL
Specialized SWorks Safire/mens Bontrager Inform RL
Giant Anthem-W XT-XTR/mens Bontrager Inform RXL
Fuji Newest 3 commuter/mens Bontrager Inform RL
Novara E.T.A commuter/mens Bontrager Inform RL