highly sensitive person

[badger]

I stumbled across this term last night while reading through a local school's adult continuing education pamphlet.

It really makes sense now, how I can't stand strong perfumes and other strong smells like popcorn and garlic, how I have to sleep with ear plugs and eye shades, how I cry watching commercials, how I crave alone time, and how I've suffered with anxiety most of my life.

I just never knew that it was an actual personality trait.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person

here's a test to see if you're HSP

[Tuckervill]

There's a whole group of families who have taken their kids out of school for these very reasons. I know some of the kids.

I have some "highly sensitive" traits. Have a hard time with florescent lights, strong smells. Two of my sons have issues with socks and tags in clothing and the like. I know some preemies develop sensitivity issues from having their nervous systems exposed to too much too soon. It's a real thing, with a continuum, like most things.

Karen

[lauraelmore1033]

Didn't need to take the test to know that one...
But then, I was the kid who used to get sent to her room for being "too sensitive"...

[shootingstar]

I stumbled across this term last night while reading through a local school's adult continuing education pamphlet.

It really makes sense now, how I can't stand strong perfumes and other strong smells like popcorn and garlic, how I have to sleep with ear plugs and eye shades, how I cry watching commercials, how I crave alone time, and how I've suffered with anxiety most of my life.

I just never knew that it was an actual personality trait.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person

here's a test to see if you're HSP

I attribute my perfume sensitivity simply because all my loved ones plus growing up in a family where no one wore perfume regularily. And I seldom wear makeup.

I used to pick up strong food smells, like garlic. But no longer. Probably because we use it nearly daily in our supper dish(es). I used to really taste a tiny amount of fresh ginger root in a savoury dish for 8 people. Now, I barely taste it because we use it nearly daily in our cooking.

And I always enjoy some alone time....I attribute this to being the oldest kid who went off in her own corner and did her own thing as escape from 5 younger siblings and rowdiness.

But maybe you are sensitive, badger after all. But you are a good person.

[lph]

wow. This is fascinating. I can relate to a lot of these. Never knew it had a name.

I love being alone. I'm never alone too much. I cry over commercials, movies, sad pictures, seeing someone else crying or sad, even a total stranger on the bus. I get very agitated if someone I know is upset, especially with me. I can get physically ill at strong smells like perfume and cigarette smoke, need to sleep in a dark room, and sleep very poorly away from home. I value tolerance though, so I try to just "suck it up" and not be fussy, but it can be hard sometimes.

I've never considered myself shy, though, but I prefer interacting with just a few people, and I hate being watched or coached when I'm trying to learn something. I'll gladly coach someone else though. I perform abysmally under stress.

And I was told once in an argument, and it still rankles, that "you just take everything too much to heart!" I guess it could be nice to view this as a good thing.

[shootingstar]

I looked at the "test". Could only identify with half of the list. I don't cry easily except for stuff concerning people I love. But I hate watching violent tv stuff. I will walk away or turn away. I never enjoyed horror movies even though I know it's fake.

Aside from the sensory stuff (smells, taste, sight ie. yes, fluorescent lights bother me and dont' make me feel as well as incadescent lighting), for myself I know just certain cultural environmental factors made me for a certain period of time "shy" or withdrawn.

Up until my mid '20's I really disliked speaking up in class or delivering presentations. Then I realized this impediment/anxiety was going to affect my job/career. So I pushed myself to deliver group/classroom training regularily to adults. It was hard but helped me alot deal with not only group/classroom training and making group presentations in several jobs, but dealing with awkward social group situations.

But all of that was coalescing at the same time in my life, as refusing to become the Asian person stereotypically seen as quiet/compliant.

There are ways to deal with the "sensitive" person tag, but yes, it can require initially very conscious changes in habits and behavioural mind-sets. It can take some time. And it helps to have support resource people and tools. But for tv/film physical violence, I don't think I will develop much of stomach for the stuff --ever.

[badger]

I think that's the thing, shootingstar. Our society dictates the highly sensitive person to "buck it up" and become "stronger".

And apparently we're greatly misunderstood (which I think, with respect, you're misunderstanding) that it's actually a neurological thing, we have heightened sensitivity to stimuli. It's not how we were brought up or what cultural background we have (though that will inevitably influence), it's something that's hard-wired within us.

Like you saying "being shy", it's one of the terms that have been wrongly labeled for us sensitive lots, it's not that we're really shy (I'm sure some are), some are extraverted. I think we tend to internalize a lot of things, need to think things through, look at the "big picture", and then do it. I'm certainly not rash and often need to "think about it/sleep on it" before making any decisions because I want to think of all the scenarios that go along with it.

It's not a bad thing, speaking from a survival point of view, it's a great trait to have, but it's not always the best way to get by in this busy, overly stimulating world we live in.

[lph]

Definitely. I'm not shy at all, am usually extroverted and can be very talkative and bossy, both with friends and strangers But I don't like talking to a lot of people at a time, parties with a lot of strangers I find very tiring, and many social occasions, even family dinners, are just exhausting to me. I come home and lie flat on the couch and just stare at the wall, so happy for some downtime.

[shootingstar]

Like you saying "being shy", it's one of the terms that have been wrongly labeled for us sensitive lots, it's not that we're really shy (I'm sure some are), some are extraverted. I think we tend to internalize a lot of things, need to think things through, look at the "big picture", and then do it. I'm certainly not rash and often need to "think about it/sleep on it" before making any decisions because I want to think of all the scenarios that go along with it.

It's not a bad thing, speaking from a survival point of view, it's a great trait to have, but it's not always the best way to get by in this busy, overly stimulating world we live in.

One example might be what so-called "shy" types that simply enjoy cycling alone alot of the time. In fact, I kind of wonder about cyclists who absolutely need to cycle with at least 1 other person most of the time. It actually puzzles me abit..but ok. Whatever works.

Yet the sociable, gregarious/noisy cycling pack types might see the hermity, shy-looking cycling folks as just avoiding friendly informal group cycling semi-competitive packs to become more 'fit', etc. You know what I mean...

My partner and I joke with one another that we are well-matched: we understand each other because he and I are each, friendly-lone wolf type of people. We like good company of others around us, but think about alot of stuff which makes each of us appear quiet and distant.

I know he is physiologically sensitive to certain things --some of it when the public health care conditions were poor during WWII when he was baby/very young in Germany which made him sick often and with sensitivties etc. even now.

[Aggie_Ama]

I got a 21, no shock I have known for years I was sensitive in the way Indy describes.