Facebook politics question

[VeloVT]

I joined Facebook recently. I put it off for a long time because it seemed too much like a popularity club. But I'm mostly liking it, it really is a good way to get/keep in touch with people you don't see often.

But something just rubbed me the wrong way...

I "friended" someone with whom I was best friends in elementary/junior high school (slept over at each other's houses all the time, spent hours on the phone together, hung out at recess and lunch, etc), but haven't seen in maybe 10 years. A week after I friend her (and she approves me), the first thing she writes on my wall is something mean about my parents (she also included the obligatory niceties, "hey, what's up, what have you been doing, how is your family"). It's actually completely true (it's a recollection of an incident that displayed some of the more extreme overbearing, overprotective, controlling behavior they were sometimes prone to), and I probably wouldn't have minded if she'd brought it up over coffee or something. But at 28, I am aware of the fact that my parents have feelings, and I'm not really crazy about public humiliation of them. It's not that I'm embarassed about the post, I"m not, it just seems mean-spirited. To add insult to injury, several years ago (long since we'd lost touch), her mom became very ill with breast cancer, and my mom was a really good friend to her mom, spending time several days a week with her while she was bedridden, cooking meals for her frequently, and when she died, my mom cooked a week's worth of meals (stew, etc) to leave with the daughters who had come home for the funeral.

On the one hand, I could write it off as trying to connect with me by bringing up a shared memory. On the other hand, it just rubs me the wrong way, and I can't figure out if it's intentionally kind of mean or just kind of not very well considered. Can some people who are more socially astute than I am weigh in here? I'm not sure how/if to respond. I sort of feel like it's a mean-girl way of snubbing me, but on the other hand, she waited a week, why not just not post anything and let me be one of those facebook friends you basically ignore?

I can't believe I'm posting this here, sorry for the TMI. It just really bothered me.

Edit: maybe I'm just oversensitive to the "public" aspect of Facebook... A few days ago I wrote, rewrote and ultimately omitted a funny (not mean) anecdote from a message I posted on a friends wall that referenced someone we both know peripherally (and he may come into contact with through work, though not someone who works at the same company as him), because I thought it was remotely possible that this person might be one of his 980 something friends and I wouldn't want an inside joke to come up on his "newsfeed" and be misinterpreted...

[shootingstar]

If your phone account allows it and she has provided you a phone number, phone her.

Otherwise, it doesn't sound like worth the effort for very sudden meanness after several yrs. of no contact.

Sometimes the past is best left...as the past. And that includes friends with whom you've lost touch for several years. (presumably if both of you still close and good pals, you would still be in touch regardless of whether Facebook technology even existed. Or even the Internet for that matter.)

[Flur]

+1 on phoning her if you can.

But regardless, it's YOUR wall she wrote on. If she wrote something on your living room wall in your house and you didn't want it there, you'd take it off, right? If you don't like what she wrote on your wall you can delete it. Your feelings are more important than hers in this case.

[NbyNW]

It sounds like your relationship with your parents has evolved in the many years that you have not been in touch with this friend. I think it would probably be okay to gently bring her up to speed, in whatever way you feel comfortable.

[kermit]

It sounds like she went back to her immature days as a teenager. Its amazing the way friends grow up or don't grow up. Slamming someones parents is no way to get back into touch. I'm sorry that happened. Perhaps she was just trying to be funny, but it was insensative. Two ways to deal with it. Let her know she was out-of-line or ignore her. Whatever feels better for you. You have been out of touch way to long to let it bother you. If thats her first comments after so long then she probably is not going to become a close friend again. Just my 2 cents.

[Biciclista]

delete it!
and then remind her of the good things your mom is done.