Back on my bike and it felt awesome!

[milkbone]

Just got off my bike and had to share the news with someone besides my two dogs

I just started riding in April (road) and have been going through some rough emotional times the past few weeks, lost ten pounds in the process. I have been looking at my bike and trainer and telling myself I really needed to get back on, and that was about as far as it got until tonight, I told myself that no matter how long I ride for it's better than nothing. So on I went, and an hour later I feel awesome!!! It has given me not only a physical uplift, but an emotional one as well!!!

[makbike]

Milkbone - keep riding! Last summer after my BF (now my ex) left me days after my surgery to remove a softball size mass from my abdomen I took to my bike (I waited until a week after my surgery to start riding). I logged a lot of miles but time on my bike was the one thing that seemed to help the most with the emotional pain - it worked better than talking to friends, my counselor or writing in my journal. It really was the one thing that kept me from diving into a deep depression. In the end, like you, I dropped ten pounds and I became a much stronger rider. Keep riding my friend!

[uforgot]

Milkbone, I was wondering just yesterday how you were doing. I was thinking..someone else went through this not too long ago, but I can't remember who, and then here she is! Makbike!

So, Milkbone, how are things? Any conversations? I think if you ride ride ride, you will continue to get better and better. Keep us posted.

Makbike: Glad to hear that you are getting through it! I remember how tough it was on you. I'm glad Milkbone and you are here for each other.

[makbike]

Claudia, I'm still hanging in there! It has been an tough but amazing year for me. I won't lie I still get down from time to time but I have learned so much about myself and what I'm capable of handling. Sure I miss the companionship, sure I miss my ex (from time to time), sure I miss the ups and downs of a having a partner but in the end I'm going to be a better and stronger person because of this unplanned journey. I continue to ride, I continue to enjoy my time with the friends I've made in the club and I continue to heal. Life is good!

[OakLeaf]

Aww, hugs to both of you. Yes, riding is really good for clearing out the head!

[uforgot]

Claudia, I'm still hanging in there! It has been an tough but amazing year for me. I won't lie I still get down from time to time but I have learned so much about myself and what I'm capable of handling. Sure I miss the companionship, sure I miss my ex (from time to time), sure I miss the ups and downs of a having a partner but in the end I'm going to be a better and stronger person because of this unplanned journey. I continue to ride, I continue to enjoy my time with the friends I've made in the club and I continue to heal. Life is good!

That's wonderful Marcie! Amazing what a little time and introspection can do. It's cliche, and eveyone says it, but it's true. I hope it continues. One year from today...I hope the journey has brought you even more rewards.

[stacie13]

Ooh, if this is a thread about split-ups and bike riding for releasing tension, I'm IN!!!!

It sounds like I'm in the same spot as you two, I've had THE crappiest two months of my life, then at the end of said two months, the b/f up and leaves me at a time I needed him most. Well, screw him I say!!! I'm better off, and now I am addicted to cycling and need to get that frustration out somehow, well, this seems to be helping me keep my sanity!!

Hang in there ladies!!

[milkbone]

Milkbone, I was wondering just yesterday how you were doing. I was thinking..someone else went through this not too long ago, but I can't remember who, and then here she is! Makbike!

So, Milkbone, how are things? Any conversations? I think if you ride ride ride, you will continue to get better and better. Keep us posted.

Makbike: Glad to hear that you are getting through it! I remember how tough it was on you. I'm glad Milkbone and you are here for each other.

Maybe I'm stupid for thinking things will work out in the long run, but for now he is moved out, (moved all of one street over), I still want to try to repair things because I know how good we can be together, he says he loves me and misses me, but needs some time and space. I'm giving that to him.

But one thing seems to be missing from our conversations, he just doesn't seem to realize that not only is his unhappiness/boredom need "fixing" now he added a bunch more to the already complex equation with the way he handled things, walking out with the explanation "I'm bored", and just a total disregard for anyone's feelings but his own. I find it hard to trust what he says now, and my guard is really up now and it has never been that way before with him. I feel like I am seeing one of the best relationships just roll away like a tumbleweed....as much as I want to save it, I'm just not sure its in reach.

Ok, enough sappy talk.... just got done with a 14hr shift and I'm exhausted, but looking forward to my "date" with my bike tomorrow.

Thank you so much TE gals, it feels great to get on here and know I'm not the only one.... thats been through this AND turned to cycling as the ultimate outlet.

[hirakukibou]

Hi Kerry,
I relate on many levels. My partner keeps threatening to leave and in unwilling to really talk about the situation. The relationship teetter-totters back and forth. I watch it and am not sure what is going to happen.

Also, I am a big advocate of biking therapy. I have been fighting major clinical depression for many years, and have found that cycling helps my mood a lot. There are some days I get on the bike and when I stop I cry, so I just ride until I am tired. Luckily those are not too many.

Wishing you the best -- with BF and with the bike.

[redrhodie]

My best friend is in the process of breaking up with her bf. Well, it's kind of been happening for 5 years now, but yesterday he was coming over to get the last of his stuff out of her house.

Anyway, I'd love to get her on a bike for exactly the reasons you all are expressing. The bike she has is way too big for her, so she thinks she hates riding. Is this a bad time for me to try to convince her to buy a bike that fits? I think starting a new activity would be good for her, but what if she really does hate it?

I'm so glad you all are doing well! Good for you for exercising at such a hard time. You will get through this. You are all so strong!