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[Brandi]

This is super personal (but now that we hava guy on the board maybe this will help me).
My dh and i have been together for 20 years. He is 10years older then me. We have always had a good physical relationship but... Well the past year or so there have been a few times when things have not worked right with him. I have never delt with this on any level. And I can tell it bother's him. We kinda talk about it but it is odd for us for some reason. He does have high blood pressure and is taking meds. He bikes all the time like me so he is in good shape. But when it happens we are both kinda weird with eachother and it is awkward. Any advice?

[Brandi]

sorry i should have posted this in the health section!

[Tri Girl]

Brandi, it is a hard topic to talk about. My sister went through this with her DH, and what helped them was going to the doc and talking about it with him. He wound up going on Cialis (I think that's it), and it's made all the difference in their physical relationship.
I would advise that you seek medical help. It might be awkward for him to see his doc, but going is important. There might be other things that need to be looked at medically, and a doc can make sure all is working right and lead him in the right direction.
I hope you get this resolved soon, as I'm sure it's putting unneeded stress on your DH (and you, too).

[Brandi]

Thank you. I know the Dr thing is a good idea. I just don't know if my dh would be able to bring it up to he's Dr. We both seem to play it off as something else every time it happens. We both seem to have no back bone on this subject. and with high blood pressure I don't think you can take those drugs for ed.

[makbike]

Brandi:

Is it possible that ED is a side effect of your husband's high blood pressure medication? When was the last time your husband had a thorough check up? It is an uncomfortable topic to address but it is not one that should be swept under the rug. Please talk to your husband and have him see a doctor.

[Duck on Wheels]

Blood pressure meds can do this. After all, an E is pumped up by blood. My dh is also on blood pressure meds, and this was a potential side effect his doctor talked with him about. I suggest that your dh take this up with his doc next time he's in for a bp check-up. If the bp is under control, then maybe he can reduce the med levels. If not, then he'll have to check with the doc before taking cialis or the like, as it might interact with the bp-regulation. For now, he should assume it's the meds and not himself as such that's causing the problem.

[Dianyla]

For now, he should assume it's the meds and not himself as such that's causing the problem.

Yes, seconding this. Granted, ED already has enough of a psych-out component. The last thing your DH needs is to develop a "complex" about something that probably is 95% medication related.

ETA: In the meantime, he'd better not have Oral Dysfunction.