When does it stop getting worse?

[HipGnosis6]

At the end of July I spent the very last of the money from my savings account to save one of my pets. A few weeks later, the other one of my wonderful black cats was put into a medical crisis when my boyfriend, who had agreed to see to their evening meal and medication while my mother was out of town, gave her 10X the correct dose of her medication. It was an honest mistake and he felt terrible about it, but it was still upsetting to come so close to losing both of my beloved animals in so short a time.

I left my job in August when the owner of the company expected me to be compliant as he blatantly disregarded the contracts we had with our wonderful manufacturers. I had already been looking for work for several months, and have been wildly unsuccessful at finding a new job. After being out of work for over a month, I finally got placed into a temp position for a few weeks. It'll end and I'll have to face the holidays without any income. My family has been giving me some financial support but only very grudgingly. I've had to face the "your brother was unemployed for a year and didn't have to ask us for help once" lecture almost every day.

In the interim, I was hit by a car on the way home from an interview. I wasn't badly hurt, but the bike needs a new rear wheel and I can't afford to have it fixed. My bike and the bus are my only means of transportation.

And this week, my boyfriend of nearly two years left me. I don't pretend to understand why it happened, but he's gone. I guess he felt too pressured by his worries about my well-being.

The paperwork for my financial aid got submitted in plenty of time but it didn't get processed and now I don't have funding for my next quarter at school. And I certainly can't pay for it out-of-pocket. If I stop attending, I'll be expected to begin to repay my loans, and I can't. I can ask for forbearance, but I don't feel good about it.

It's just been one bad thing after another and I don't know what to do any more.

/whine

[Dogmama]

Many years ago, I spent $1,700 to have my German Shepherd's ACL repaired. I had $2K in my bank account. A month later, she got very ill. Didn't know what was wrong, many visits to vet for expensive diagnostics, finally had to ease her along her path.

I wouldn't change a thing. When my vet would tell me how much a certain test, or specialist would cost, I'd look him in the eye & say, "You can't scare me with money."

I know it's tough now, but things DO work out.

If you have copies of your school paperwork, go stand on some administrator's desk until they make an exception. They can always get stuff through. If you were an athlete, you wouldn't have to worry

Don't know if you're religious, but remember: Your higher power never lets you walk down a dark hallway without opening a window. You are in God's care and She loves you.

[margo49]

Had a couple of phases in my life like this (one thing after another)
Main thing is to concentrate on "the very moment".
Generally at any particular moment nothing really terrible is actually happening to us you see. So we're either thinking about the past (that is already done with ) or worrying about the future (which may or may not turn out like we are worrrying).The odd occasion that The Very Moment *is* an emergency - adrenaline and friends/random bystanders will get you thru it. Trust The Universe.
Also do not expect too much of ourself *as well* (eg putting the finishing touches to The Unified Theory you have been working on the past 5 years in your spare time)
All the religions have their tricks too. Dust off the old books or beads or simply sing!

One last hint: don't go for retail therapy unless it is something cheap and small that you will use up in a short time eg hand lotion) or it will still be hanging around years later reminding you of this time.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

HipGno...
You can look at these things a different way (is the cup half empty or half full?):
1) Your cats both got terribly sick but you were able to save them and now they are doing better than before.
2) You left your job because you have high principles. You now have another job which is bringing some money in while you continue looking for a new job. Other temp jobs may come along in the meantime to fill in the gaps.
3) At least you HAVE family that you can borrow money from in emergencies.
4) a car hit you while you were biking, but amazingly, you came away uninjured, and even your damaged bike is repairable eventually.
5) a relationship that was not working out ended. You are free to explore new possibilities should they arise. Or just explore being yourself for a while.
6) you can probably get them to rush-process your paperwork if you march in and explain your situation. If you skip this semester however, you probably won't have to make loan payments if you are still don't have a permanent job yet.

Hoping this presents another way of looking at it, or just a little food for thought....

[esther231]

{{{{{HipGnosis}}}}}

Life is hard sometimes.

Lisa's right, everyone is right who has posted. Just a mess to get through it all sometimes. But keep doing the next right thing - like you have been. And, eventually, it turns again.

Rooting for you.

[Bicyclette]

HipGnosis -

I'm so sorry you're going through this - I was there many years ago - it's not an easy place to be - but if you take it one day at a time you will get through it - as they say "this too shall pass"

I would be marching my happy a** into financial aid and demanding some options from them since it was their responsibility to process your forms. That, to me, is just not acceptable. There are always options - you just need to find them.

Good luck - you'll get through this..

[KnottedYet]

Hang in there, do what everyone else said. And I "ditto" what everyone else said.

The financial aid debacle is THEIR fault, so be sure you follow up on that.

[Tri Girl]

Hip, keep your chin up. I can't say anything different than what's been said, but just know I'm thinking of you. You're not alone- you have us to come to when you need an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on! {{{big hugs}}}
Hang in there, things are bound to get better!

[Popoki_Nui]

Good grief! It always seems to happen at once, doesn't it? Hang in there HipGnosis. I'm sorry I can't help with the bike, but I may be able to help with your vet bills if your cats need to go to the vet again while you get your situation figured out. And you WILL get it sorted out...it doesn't seem like it some days, but things do work out. Keep the faith, sista!

Please email me at catlover@ii.ca or meow@victoriacatrescue.com if you need financial assistance for your beloved cats.

Purrs 'n headbutts,
Sherry.

[HipGnosis6]

I just wanted to thank all of you for your words of support. Thanks, ladies. You're the best.