It IS possible to endo a road bike under braking. It is not an urban legend. I learned this the hard way seven months ago.Luckily I escaped with only minor injuries.
About three-fourths of your braking power comes from the front brake. Also, it's easy to lock up the rear wheel under braking as your weight shifts to the front. That - plus the belief that endo-ing a road bike under braking is an urban legend - is why a lot of people get into the bad habit of using the front brake exclusively. You'll get the most effective stopping power by learning to modulate both brakes, and shifting your weight back under braking.
Braking skills are extra important in a group ride because unless your riding buddies are extremely skilled, you're likely to be changing speed more quickly than you'd have to if you were alone. But just as important as knowing how to use your brakes is learning NOT to. In a group ride, you do not want to touch your brakes unless it's absolutely necessary. Slow down by sitting up and pulling out of the draft slightly. Soft-pedal (i.e. turn the pedals just slightly slower than what it takes to drive the wheel) and do not stop pedaling unless you intend to brake - when you stop pedaling, that's a signal to the person behind you that you're going to be stopping quickly, so they'll back off and potentially lose your draft, then have to accelerate to catch back up with you.
You should leave a fairly decent gap between you and the next rider until you're comfortable with your handling skills.