Ok, someone slap me (either way).
I have been sort of dating for the last 6 months a guy who is a great, kind, smart, wonderful man. He is a super cyclist but bikes on his own, he prefers to bike alone. In fact, he pretty much prefers to be alone. He has been married twice to women totally wrong for him. He says he loves me, but has made it perfectly clear he doesn't want another marriage. In fact, we are a once a week sort of thing, although he calls me every day. I am totally crazy about him, but also trying to be realistic about where this is going.

So I meet this other guy, who is a kind, sweet, smart, financially stable guy. He is a recreational cyclist and happy to ride with me. Attractive in sort of a nerdy kind of way. In fact, he is totally nuts about me. And we are very similar in many ways. The problem? I am tied up with guy number one. I feel disloyal to him even getting to know guy number two. I told him I was going out tonight and he says that he just wants me to be happy, he was honestly appalled that I thought he would mind. He says, "we are what we are."

I don't know! Help! I know ya'll are total strangers, don't know me or him or the circumstances....and I am fine with NO guy, but this seems to be a particularly hard choice. So words of advice?