new coworker

[bacarver]

I have a challenging situation at work to deal with. I had an absolutely wonderful work partner (WWP) until last week. WWP moved out of the area and had to take a new job. My new partner (NP) is so different and establishing a relationship with NP is going to take effort. I plan to have a pleasant chat soon to open communication, listen to suggestions, and avoid problems, but NP has such a STRONG personality that I feel I'll have to make all the adjustments while biting my tongue in half. I miss WWP terribly.
This situation, at best, will reach compromise. At its worst, I'll feel trapped despite efforts to deal with it using my best coping skills.
Any ideas?
Thanks - Barb

[mimitabby]

sounds like you have the right idea. She/he could be really nervous about you too.

[bacarver]

Thanks for the encouragement, Mimitabby. Anxiety may be a component here. I'll keep this in mind when I talk with my coworker.

Barb

[lph]

Yup, I was thinking the same. I tend to come over arrogant when I'm nervous too, unfortunately. I hate feeling timid, so I end up being bossy instead...

Good luck!

[Torrilin]

Some of it may be different communication styles too. I'm introverted, cranky and I grew up near enough to New York that I picked up lots of that communication style. For someone with a more traditionally Southern or Midwestern communication style, I come off as very harsh and even nasty. Trying hard to do better on that.

[bacarver]

Thank you, TE buds. I'll take the encouragement and perspectives and meet with my new coworker. I hope to have a good update soon.
Barb

[LBTC]

All good thoughts. And just for fun, visualize butterflies. They make everyone happier!

Sending lots of peaceful and calm cream and blue butterflies, with just a few orange ones to keep your confidence up.

Hugs and butterflies,
~T~