Hey Kathi,
I have small hands also and I have
Salsa short and shallow on my Surly.
I have the Specialized on my Orbea.
I am pretty happy with both.
Bicycling magazine also has a picture(pg 29)
of Richey Biomax handlebars. See if you can look and get
a feel for a few at an LBS. Just walk around and grab handlebars..
Hope this helps.