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Why read stuff like that? It's just not productive or healthy.
I know you have a lot of health issues and you want to weigh less, but sometimes you just have to accept your body as it is and make the best of what genetics gave you. Do the things you love doing and that make you happy. Stop worrying about some ideal weight. Love the life you've got.
As long as we live, time passes by
And we won't get it back when we die
Bowling for Soup
Veronica
(((((((channlluv)))))))
Here, read this. http://redvinylshoes.com/ She guest-blogged for B*tch Magazine over the fall and I really loved what she had to say. The archive of her pieces for them are ... well, dang it, sometimes TE goes too far with the editing...
I can't even give you a hidden link because the software edits out the name of the magazine. Anyway, here's most of the link: http://*****magazine.org/profile/tasha-fierce You'll have to cut and paste and type in the name of the magazine yourself. :rolleyes:
Dear Herald,
Before we go off and spend time and money with a Veternary Internist - I wish you could tell me if you are just in the winter of your years. Is it something that can be fixed, considering you're 16, or do we just try to make you comfortable? I do appreciate the fact that you've gone a whole week without throwing up, I'll forgive the icky hairball. I'm sorry you don't feel your old self. :(
I'm glad you felt up to eating a little dinner this evening. Maybe you just don't like what the restaurant is serving? :rolleyes:
I think your expert doctor guy is really concerned with getting statistically significant results for his studies. He's given up something for it though, something like kindness, humanity, bedside manner and all the other stuff he probably wrote on his med school application essay.
Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself.
Thanks. I'm actually doing better today. I've resumed logging my food and exercise in Lose It! Getting in the pool felt really good today. I may go for a ride tomorrow. Depends on how I feel when I get up.
I can only do what I can do. Not to resign myself to being happy at 230, but I can work harder at losing the 50 pounds he said I could lose.
We'll see.
Roxy
Channlluv, I'm sorry that whole sitution just sounds crappy.Kudos to you for not giving up its too bad your doctor doesn't seem to feel that way. Keep riding, swimming, or whatever works for you. Realize and tell yourself you are beautiful no matter what the scale says .
Beth - aww, poor Herald. Don't you wish they could talk sometimes and tell you what's up?
channlluv - what a childish and snotty thing to write on a blog! And untrue, obviously, she does not speak for many people. It may not help, but I realized at some point that unless you're completely invisible in society, somebody somewhere is always going to dislike you, whether it's for your opinions or for your looks or your behaviour or, more often than not, for belonging in some way to a group they desperately want to distance themselves from.
I also really think you need a second opinion from a doctor with experience from athletes, not just weight loss as such. I don't distrust doctors in general, but I know that there are plenty of people here on TE who can verify how you can be heavy and fit at the same time, and how it's more important to focus on what you can do - like a century - than the number you weigh. It just doesn't jive to me that drastic surgery is the best option for someone who wants to be active.
(((((Roxy))))
Doctors really do stink sometimes...especially the ones at the top.
Does your doc have a nurse practitioner or two in his practice? They're my secret weapon! IME, they have more time and patience than most docs, and generally more compassion too. I only see my endocrinologist if I absolutely must- the rest of the time, I schedule with a NP.
Don't let him defeat you.
If Herald could talk, he'd probably say: "Baby, I don't feel good, and I don't know why. I just don't feel right."
Channlluv - living in the "itty bitty town" of San Diego, there has to be another doctor you could go to for a second opinion. Surgery is drastic. There has to be a doc out there, more into fitness than knives that could help you. Piffle on mean spirited people and their blogs - according to them, probably most of us are "fat" too - as in we aren't anorexic thin, we're fit (some more than others :rolleyes:), we're curvy, and we'll walk them to the ground. Let's challenge her to a 5 mile bike ride!
((((Channlluv))))))
I'm sorry the Dr's are being such Richard Heads but that is what surgeons generally do, they cut, recommend cutting. You've done all the research, there's nothing wrong, now you're good to go.
Do you do intervals. hill repeats, weights? Have a coach? You're healthy, fit and strong. I'd ditch the scale. If you want to measure something measure the town line sprint, or speed up that "nemesis" hill, or a lap in the pool.
Get stronger and faster. :D The inches might fall off, you may still be the same weight but who cares. Being fast and strong is fun and looks great at any weight. Then if a Dr wants surgery you say:
"you, me, any day, any bike, any hill, let's go. If you can beat me you can do the surgery".
http://www.biggirlbiking.com/2010/07/i-dont/
"Richard Heads"?? :D :D
My turn:
dear middle boss,
most of the time I like you. You're funny, outgoing, friendly and refreshingly straightforward. But sometimes your "aw shucks, can't we just keep this simple" tone can be a bit grating. Like when you're axing half the work I did last week. I spent three days writing that letter. I ran it by my so-called superior (who isn't because he doesn't do his job, but that's another matter) - he wanted a lot more wordy fluff and everything repeated three times, in illogical order. I carefully sifted through his additions, kept the essentials, re-ordered it and ditched the fluff. I ran it by the legal people. They tweaked a bit. I ran it by my closest boss. He thought it was great.
So when you suddenly turn up and cut half of what I've written it is a bit annoying. It's fine that you want to cut it down, but grant me a little respect. You don't have to go on and on in an exasperated "I am the voice of reason" tone implying how pointlessly detailed and unnecessary it all is. And when you in addition look to my so-called superior for agreement - who is suddenly weathervaning and agreeing all over the place with you that this should be as short as possible - I start seething inside. I'm one of the best writers you have, and I don't deserve that tone.
Yeah, I know you noticed me seething. Good.
I hope the karma fairy will be along for certain bosses, bloggers and surgeons soon. I hope Herald feels better soon.
Dear woman who telephoned while I was fixing my toddler's tea. No, you cannot have my dh's mobile number if you won't tell me who you are or even what organisation you work for. Telling me that you need to speak to him urgently about his credit card is not good enough, as I happen to know that he has two cards, and one of the providers always identifies themselves when leaving a message. So that would make you either Amex, in which case please use the contact details that he provided on the corporate application form, or some random stranger in which case go away.
Thanks, jelee, Beth, Becky, lph, and Trek, and everyone else who's offered up supportive comments. Each and every one of you make great points.
I do need to go find a sports-focused nutritionist. I will not succumb to the surgical solution unless I've really, really tried everything else, and yes, I need to do more in the way of intervals and sprints.
I do them now, but not with any kind of intention. More like, ooo, a straightaway. I can go fast. Yay! That lasts for about 20 seconds before my legs remind my gumption that it's actually kind of challenging to push 230 pounds around on a bike and can we please go back to that manageable 14mph?
But yes, Trek, I get your point.
If anything, this experience with Dr. Honcho has gotten me focused back on my training, because I've been really slacking off since I injured my knee doing that 5k-a-Day thing in August. It's mostly healed. Still a little twingy, but not bad. Time to get back on track.
Thank you, friends!
Roxy
I am glad you are feeling better Channelluv! I was shocked that his first choice for you was the knife, I have noticed from the comments of others I know that surgery appears to be the first choice more often than not these days.
Good for you to not allow his comments to get you down, and I think a sports-nutritionist is an excellent choice. Also glad to hear you knee is feeling better :)
Dear National Grid,
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!! You are so frustrating! Just send the repairman already!
Dear boyfriend:
This habit of shooting yourself in the foot is not an attractive quality in a mate. Here we go again...
Me.
Exactamundo! That's your interval. :) 20 seconds is fine, then go back to the manageable yet admirable and respectable 14 mph for 30 seconds to a minute, then when safe to do so sprint again till the legs yell, rest, repeat.Quote:
Originally Posted by channlluv
Ask your trainer how many and how often to start with and then build to.
But I just took my measurements and yikes :eek: my weight and pants size was holding so I did not notice that my waist is bigger. That won't do, the apple shape is not so healthy for me so if you don't mind being my inspiration I'll be doing the stairs or a hill near work at lunch twice a week, say Monday Wednesday.
I have to bump it up a notch and add that to my workout. :cool:
Dear Bonnie and Calypso,
The water glass is mine, mine, I say. You have a huge water bowl in the kitchen, and a cup on the bathroom counter. Why do you feel the need to drink out of my water glass, or worse yet, stick your paw in it, then lick from the paw? We're in a small hotel suite, it isn't THAT far to either the kitchen or the bathroom. I don't drink out of your bowl or cup, so please leave my glass of water alone.
Thank you.
Beth - at least they only want your water. Chloe tries to drink my coffee in the morning..:eek: Just what the world needs, a caffeinated corgi.
Eddy's not happy until he tips the glass over. He tips his water bowl over, too. Yeah, it's fun game, especially at 4 am.
I swear both of our doggies are on permanent caffiene...:eek::rolleyes:
the attached picture shows why we have difficulty using any sink in the house. Tux, the Maine coon cat is incapable of passing any water, standing or running without trying to dig a well and increase the flow. On the rare occasion that he drinks out of the water bowl, he digs at the linoleum all around the dish, invariably snagging the dish and splashing it all over the floor until the dish is dry and then he leaps up and demands I turn on the faucet.
As for coffee and animals, I used to have a parakeet that flew freely through the apartment except when there was coffee, beer, or gin and tonic in the area. Then he would perch on the edge of the cup or glass and bite anyone who tried to sip or remove him. If allwed to partake he would fall into the cup or glass, flutter frantically and when fished out by the tail, come up sputtering and swearing in two different voices and vocabularies.
Animals are so amusing.
Dear Karma,
Why do you hate me?
I don't kill bugs, I rescue turtles, I do the best I can. Give me a gdbreak, will ya?
Dear Karma,
Leave zen alone ok please. She's coolo you know.
What cc sed: Zen fosters doggies. Dear Karma, you owe her big time.
Dear Project Manager and Sr. PM,
Thank you for not sharing the Scope of Work for the document I was supposed to write for the other agency. Just warms the cockles of my heart to be told I did a mediocre job during a conference call this morning. Nothing quite like finding out that you idiots sat on information. I know you didn't do it to make me look bad, you aren't that smart. Hopefully while I'm enjoying Adventures in Moving this week you'll be strung up, or just thrown in the river out back, or better yet, both. :mad:
Dear Happyfundog,
Your off-leash privileges are hereby revoked. I thought between your good behavior of late and your general confusion over DST, I'd reward us both with a nice mid-day walk at the off-leash area to enjoy what little good weather we have left. (Our off-leash areas are not fenced, they are HUGE, and have lots of places to hide)
But when you run off for nearly three hours (after a one-hour walk already!) like you did today and make me worry, not to mention take up my entire afternoon looking for you when I have Things I Need to Get Done and People to Let Into the House to Take Care of Last Week's Basement Leak, I have to conclude that you no longer have the good judgment to stay by my side or at least where I can see you, like you used to do.
And I didn't have anything to eat between breakfast (9AM) and finding you (4PM) :mad:
I am glad you did not encounter a coyote or wander off into the neighborhood and get hit by a car during your afternoon of adventures.
Sincerely,
Your Beta-mom.
(Yes, I do outrank you.)
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Originally Posted by NbyNW
Hope you have a more peaceful day today!
LOL, what LPH said - and I am glad that your dog wasn't harmed and hope you were able to get the basement looked after.Quote:
Originally Posted by NbyNW
I've never had a dog, but since I can't have a cat any longer due to strong/persistent allergies, I have considered getting a small dog. After reading things like this I am unsure my nerves could take it though, perhaps a nice set of parakeets would do instead ;)
Seriously, as much as I am not home these days due to work/riding/gym/etc. I probably don't need to have any pets at all outside of fish and they are not what one could consider interactive... Ah well.
Yes, a dog will suffer being alone so much of the time, so unless you're willing to do doggy day-care, I wouldn't get a dog at this time. They really do need companionship and socialization.Quote:
Originally Posted by Catrin
That is one of the reasons why I've never had a dog. Cats are a little different, especially if they have a playmate to keep company with when I am not home. I just love cats anyway - not that that there is anything wrong with dogs! If I were close enough to home from work that I could come home in the middle of the day I might consider a small dog, but that is just a bad idea I think.Quote:
Originally Posted by emily_in_nc
Thanks, everyone.
Gordy is at daycare today so I get to relax a bit today. We were warned when we adopted him that he was smart, so I guess he just outsmarted me yesterday. I am going to be smarter in the future and not take him to that particular park anymore. There are adventures there that he simply cannot resist.
Catrin, you're right -- if you can't give a dog the time and energy he/she needs, the responsible thing to do is not get one! Doesn't matter what the dog's size is -- they need their routines, and they don't take holidays!
IMHO, a good doggy daycare won't take a new client unless the dog has had some basic behavior training and is already well socialized. It's not their job to teach your dog how to behave. That said, Gordy's daycare has been indispensable in reinforcing good behavior.
I'm a big fan of parakeets -- we had a few when I was growing up. Very trainable and not as high maintenance as a dog!
I have thought about birds before, but in the end what I REALLY want is a cat, and I cannot have one :(
C'est la vie - I can get my feline fix at friends houses..I can be around them, just can't live with them in a small apartment. I've stayed with friends in a very large house with no carpet and was fine...but they were very clean and there wasn't a speck of dust anywhere - let alone a stray cat hair! I don't know that I would be able to replicate that :o
Not a stray cat hair? What's their secret. We try to keep our two-cat household clean, but I still feel like it's covered in fur. We have kitty fur tumbleweeds. When Sophie was still alive, we called them tumblesophs.
LOL at the tumblesophs :) I am looking forward to seeing your cats!Quote:
Originally Posted by indysteel
They just clean. A lot. I mean, really a lot. Also their two cats for some reason don't seem to shed quite as much as my cats always did, though it may have had something to do with sweeping the whole place twice a day...
Every time I've been over there, DBF's family does a massive clean because I'm allergic to cats (and his mom's a bit of a neat freak). I've never had a problem with the resident kitty, but I kept finding cat hairs the clothes I took there.
Dear person--
You want me to tutor your daughter. A little more communication, especially about the logistics, would be nice. I don't want to find out I have to take the bus or the bike (god forbid!) at the last minute.
Me.
Dear Manager,
A little lipstick on the Pig doesn't fix the problem.
The Pig is still there. You're causing me much work to apply a liberal amount mascara to said Pig, so while I realize it makes YOU feel better, my to-do list isn't being helped by taking this time to make you feel better.
If you could consider this the next time-- and I'm sure there will be a next time-- I'd be a much happier and productive employee.
Sincerly,
Me
Dear World,
Could people please stop being so ruled by money??!! It drives me crazy the way money is the only thing many people listen to.:mad:
Also, could people start actually caring for other people....truly caring, without ulterior motives!!??
One more thing....could the rich corporations that exploit so many people be put out of business?!?
I know its big, but if we work together we can do it...
Bikegurl
Dear race organizers. How could you run out of finisher medals before the majority of the runners/walkers finished the course? Could you not plan for this knowing how many people were registered?
And wtf is this...tearing down the course before everyone is done? How disheartening is it to be crossing the finish line while dodging people rolling up banners and barricade nets? At least the race announcer kept going, announcing every person who crossed the line.
This isn't your first time doing this, you should know better.
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Yeah - uncool. :mad:Quote:
Originally Posted by snapdragen