Wow, Helene, hope yours starts to feel better ASAP!
I was raring to go this morning, get out and run some errands, but the knee isn't cooperating. We're making the the best of it and sitting around reading, drinking coffee, and relaxing,
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Wow, Helene, hope yours starts to feel better ASAP!
I was raring to go this morning, get out and run some errands, but the knee isn't cooperating. We're making the the best of it and sitting around reading, drinking coffee, and relaxing,
Try to encourage yourself Pax and say it is only for a little while. Then we'll be back to our "normal" lives. hihi My husband went to purchase me a pair of crutches. I prefer to spend 40$ and keep them forever than rent them at $10 a week++. Always good to have a pair handy anyway.
Feels weird though not doing anything at all but sit on sofa on a Saturday. Sooooo not like me. hihi
Will grab a book or my tablet and read magazines. Catch up on my internet stuff I never have time to do. Let hubby spoil me and have a pet or 2 sleeping beside me. Life is still good. :)
MTB, touring, tri, running .... We need an "injured reserve" section on TE. ((All our gimpy athletes)) :pQuote:
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I know... my injury is not related to cycling (the only sports I'm allowed to do for now - that and swimming but not that easily accessible for time-being) and our pool is now freezing and being closed in the coming days. Luckily I have an excellent PT and she will make it ok sooner than later. :)
That would be fun! I'm starting to think that between my hip/knee/foot and grad school (and the awful student insurance that goes with it), I won't be able to ride a bike for another 4 years!Quote:
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Since I can't go outside and do anything fun... I stayed inside and put on a big pot of chili!!!
Mmmmmm, chili.
It was sooooo good! Leftovers tonight and another batch in the freezer for later.
With beer.Quote:
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Leftovers were fantastic!!! Had wine instead of beer though, I had an open bottle of Pinot Noir to finish. :D
Love that. :)Quote:
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Muirenn - my desk is near a door connecting to a hallway where students gather waiting to get into the lecture hall across the corridor, I hear bits and pieces of their conversations all day... but nothing quite that interesting! :p
This made me laugh!
I had the joy of overhearing two young teenage girls, psyched from the climbing gym, loudly and very eagerly discussing exactly how dishonest one could be towards ones parents. One of them had obviously lost or broken some item. They agreed that she didn't have to say how it happened, and pretending that she forgot and put it into the washing machine by mistake was fine. But she could NOT say that her mother had put it into the washing machine by mistake, because that was LYING. "You have to take the responsibility yourself, right?"
On and on. Very amusing :-D
The things we can hear those "darling" teenagers say heuh!
Someone related (hey!!! I'm not like her!) who was in her teenage years stole from a bank (at teller) and was honest enough to tell her dad (long story short as it is pretty complicated). But she was telling her dad who obviously was very very upset and turned her in, that "it is ok dad as it was not a real gun!" The dad turned white and although stayed calm while pedaling under water - trying to explain to her that a teller does not have time to question if it is for real or not!!!! What if the police shot you, etc. And she was dumb enough to not even cover herself! So she was totally opened for cameras. hihi He was trying to tell her that police don't question when such robbery it taking place. And what she did for drug (and her then boyfriend) was totally wrong and could have very high-price to pay. If I wrote the whole story, some of you would freak out. Unbelievable sometimes what those kids can come up with. Luckily she turned around and seems ok as a young adult now. But still...
Imagine being a parent and finding out your kid not only robbed a bank, but 2, and one he was doing his business with! And some restaurant chain. Shishhh. And she was well-raised, etc. Go figure what is in their right mind sometimes! At least he was man enough to turn in his own kid to the police so she could understand how the system works and learn from it. She did. I think...
So here's one of my favorite "overheard" things: Not long after I returned to school psychology in 2002 or so, after spending a decade away working in public policy at the state level, I was walking down the hall of my elementary school and I heard a 2nd grade teacher say to his class, "Okay, everyone who's been wearing paper moustaches, please take them off and put them back in your desks."
Didn't hear THAT kind of thing in the state government agencies. It still makes me smile.
I teach high school...you would not believe what I overhear....:eek:
Well, talking with the investment/retirement guy was like being a goldfish, listening to a martian. I have NO idea what 90% of the words he used meant; I just sat there like "huh" Thankfully Mary understood, all I had to do was sign my name.
I used to feel that way too Pax. My dad would start talking to me about my finances, investments, and what I should do. My eyes would glaze over halfway through the conversation. I'm sure he would have hated that I rolled my 457b (Public Emplyees version of a 401K, sort of) into my regular pension plan. It added five year to my days of service though. :cool:
It was weird, I can write you a multi million dollar HUD grant, but financial stuff is as confusing to me as basketball!
I hate listening to financial stuff. I understand quite a bit of it, but I would avoid it if I could. I let DH handle this. I am aware of all of the stuff, but I don't have the inclination to watch the market daily and make transactions. I put my $ in a socially responsible fund, so I wouldn't have to deal with it. When the growth wasn't so spectacular, I gave DH permission to pull it out and do the investments himself. It's doubled, so I guess he knows what he is doing.
Yeah, it makes my eyes glaze over too, when it isn't plain terrifying ... pretty much the same as electrical stuff. :cool: Both life skills that can wind up costing me badly if I trust too much to others. But I just don't really get it.
I wonder whether it's a matter of what we were exposed to as kids? Growing up, my parents never shared money stuff with us kids. My dad, really, my mom was in the dark too, and after he passed away, she had to learn what she could and trust entirely too much to her broker. At least, thankfully, her 401(k) gives her access to a broker who's salaried to manage all her investments without commission. And then, for most of my young adult life I lived so close to the edge that saving wasn't even possible. So, now DH tries to involve me, but his understanding is so far beyond mine that it's hard for him even to explain things in terms that I can integrate. Discrete concepts, yeah, I can get, but how it all works together, it might as well be Sumerian.
On a completely different note ... I had a little epiphany this morning about my own reactions to some things, triggered by the graffiti thread. I realized that I get cranked at any kind of "other-ing" of bad behavior.
Sometimes it's just a way to feel superior, insulting but basically harmless. ("I didn't do X when I was young, and so when I read about young people doing X now, it means that my generation was superior to the current crop of young people.")
Sometimes it's a way to deflect self-examination, to the detriment of both the person and their community at large. (The meme that racism happens only in the American South, or that intolerant Christian Americans live only in rural areas. Or that only certain genres of popular music contain violent misogynist lyrics.)
Sometimes it costs lives, and means that some truly bad people are punished much worse than others. (The idea that mass violence is terrorism only if it's committed in the name of certain religions and not others.)
From small to large, it all ticks me off, the idea that people do bad things because they're members of groups that just coincidentally the speaker doesn't belong to.
Well said, Oak. Thank you for this.Quote:
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Agreed. Been thinking about this a bunch.Quote:
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I did lots of bad stuff when I was young, so I rarely think in terms of "that younger generation." Plus, i think it's pretty hard to generalize a whole generation. My own kids look like angels compared to me (and my DH), and they are part of the entitled group, according to the media.
From what I've observed in my new career (and somewhat while I was teaching), "bad things" are experienced in every culture, walk of life, neighborhood. It's how the particular people deal with the "bad thing," or the community response, that is different. I always have to laugh when one of my friends says, "that happened in .....???!!" Over the years, I've set them straight, so this doesn't happen much, but I am quite sure others think the same way.
It works the reverse also, millenials having certain impressions of boomers in general. What it annoying is in work-related literature is separating employees in generational groups... and how to treat them, their perceived work habits. Or blaming the car-dominant culture on boomers for ruining the environment, schlepping the kids around (unless they are shown other options)... as if all of us fall into that single category.
The single reason why I don't give my exact age at work, is being branded for being Luddite, etc. etc. I may not have a cellphone yet...but I am a person that is coming into your dept...to convert manual processes to electronic..
This is total thread drift; I really want to post this on Facebook, but don't particularly want the nasty responses.
Since when did Halloween become a real holiday? I mean, I have fond memories of dressing up in simple store bought costumes, trick or treating, and going to a party at school, run by the PTA, on Halloween night. I stopped dressing up after 6th grade. After I moved to AZ, I thought maybe it was a regional thing that adults dressed up at work and "celebrated" Halloween. Now, I see that it's not, and people are talking about Halloween weekend, like it's Thanksgiving.
I don't like scary stuff and I'm OK with this as a kid's thing, but really, it just seems silly to me. I know it's just my opinion, and it's not hurting me, but sometimes I think my idea of fun is radically different than a lot of others!
I don't care at all for Halloween. Maybe because we have no kids. And stores are already into xmas trees, etc....and we're 2 months away, and Halloween is not even over! We live in a crazy world I think....all to make you spend! hihi
I'm actually amazed how different things are in the workplace ....nowadays compared a few decades ago where adults in the workplace,not necessarily a lot, love dressing up. There's a woman in our dept. who brought a whole box of Hallowe'en decorations and went around during her lunch hr. with another colleague to decorate our cubicles.So I have lots of funky mini witch hats festooning my cubicle.:D
Much to my surprise, 1 of my sisters and her husband really get into Hallowe'en festivities with their 2 young children (under 6 yrs. old) ...they decorate inside and outside of their house several wks. before Hallowe'en which also includes several of their own home carved pumpkins. I was not aware of this because I live in another province. They rent a local community centre rm. and throw a largish Hallowe'en party for parent-friends and their children with games, food (+some stuff that people bring), everyone in costumes.. this is 60+ people. She corrals teen nephews and niece to help out with the party. The neighbourhood is very popular trick or treating area..300 children showed up last year at their door, in the evening for candy... :eek: The older teens who help out, find it fun.
This is completely foreign to her other family members, because we never grew up with much emphasis on Hallowe'en at all.
Halloween is getting bigger here too, but I like it, for one because I enjoy the whole vibe of it, but also because I don't feel any pressure to celebrate. That's not completely correct, I do feel that I have to go buy candy for the kids as a minimum, but it's a nice way to meet and interact with the neighbourhood. The "holidays" I really don't like are Valentine's, and mother's and fathers day, with ads everywhere trying to give you a bad conscience if you don't show how much you love someone by buying them something.
Thanksgiving used to be my favorite, the whole family got together, there was great conversation and food, and there were no presents to buy... just a nice day together.
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite, since it's all about the food, getting together, fun. I liked Chanukah when my kids were small, now, it's less of a celebration for us. I also used to love Valentine's Day, as my Dad always made a big deal of it while I was growing up, with jewelry for my mom, and candy/small gifts for me. DH and I go out a lot, so it's not such a big deal now. I usually cook a nice dinner and sometimes we exchange small gifts.
I also love Patriot's Day, a quintessential Massachusetts Day. It's the celebration of the "shot heard round the world," and now that I live 3 miles from where that actually happened, it's quite meaningful. I also have marched in the parade as part of a military family group, and it's just amazing.
This is my first "orphan" year. My parents are gone now, my brother and I are okay with each other now, but our lives are very separate so we won't see much of each as time goes on. This holiday season is going to be strange, mom was the glue that kept us together as a family, now we'll go our own ways and hopefully, create new traditions.
Pax,
I hear you on this. Very often parents are the ones who keep us together. My parents and hubby parents are gone so there is really nothing much left to "celebrate". Very often, it is just the 2 of us and we're fine with it. The hardest holiday I think is Xmas and New year's eve. Other than that, I don't care much for holidays. Thanksgiving in Canada goes unnoticed for most of us, at least those I know, in Canada. So yep. We need to be creative in our own ways.
I'm thankful Mary and I will get to spend xmas/new years/ and our 25th anniversary at our new place in FL. Seems like a good way to get some new traditions started!
Very well stated. I could go on about this for pages, but I won't. You've done a good job of saying what needs to be said.Quote:
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Talking about Halloween...could not help but share that one! Valid anytime as a matter of fact (while riding!) hihi
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I have to disagree. I've been working with the same basic age group of children 9 - 11 year olds for 20+, and they have changed. They know a whole more about the world, sex, drugs, movies, videos than they did 20 years. The first time I showed the sex video to my fifth graders in 1996 shot from the point of view of a sperm, they had no idea that when the sperm entered the "large cave" that the man had just ejaculated. My students today know about condoms and golden showers.Quote:
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Further their ability to deal with interpersonal relationships has changed. They no longer ignore people who bother them. They yell at them or hit them. Their ability to perform academically has changed as well. When material is challenging, they are more likely to give up. If something has too many words, they won't read it.
i do believe overall the ten year olds of 1996 were superior to the ten year olds of today.
Veronica
I have to agree with Veronica. I have been 27 years at the same school, 19 with the same age group of high school kids. Things are not the same, and not in a good way. I don't think it is the typical situation of the older generation thinking that these "wild and crazy kids are going to ruin the world." The kids have changed. What I am able to teach has changed, parent interactions have changed.
I agree with both points of view, if that makes sense.
Society has changed, not just the kids or teens. However, every generation still says, "Those kids are going to ruin the world." Since I work with both adolescents and adults now, I can truly say that it's not just the kids. A lot of the teens I work with are funny, smart, and have great potential. They just have parents who are clueless, who have actually contributed to making their kid's mental health worse, mostly by ignoring it.
I know a lot of millennial, through my kids. Most of them (including my own kids) view the world quite differently, but this is not necessarily a bad thing.