Hubby is mad that I won't ride......

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03-23-2008, 11:02 AM
BleeckerSt_Girl

I doubt either of them will ever be back here. Frankly, I don't blame them. Yikes.
What a feeding frenzy.
03-23-2008, 11:13 AM
SadieKate

Quote:

Originally Posted by GeorigaGirl94

He thinks I'm just being a picky B**** and basically I just don't want to ride with him. We are at it again today. It's a beautiful day and I would love to go riding with him but I refuse to keep hurting myself. He keeps saying I ride with the same kind of saddle I gave you...YEA well it hurts me. I absolutely love my bike and really enjoy riding with him so how can I express this to him and make him believe it?

NOWHERE DOES SHE SAY HE CALLED HER A *****! GeorigaGirl says "he thinks . . . " This could be her interpretation of his words and thoughts. My husband thinks I'm a picky princess at times, but I could easily, in fun, have described to someone else his reaction using the same word, but over the internet the joke wouldn't be interpreted correctly. She's made very few posts so not a one of us knows her personality or her writing style. The few posts by Mr. GeorigaGirl were obviously well-intentioned and very polite. Other husbands/boyfriends have posted here using the woman's sign-in without you ripping into him. I vote we all layoff the relationship counseling without knowing a damn thing about her and her husband.

Just maybe, maybe, she'll come back and learn some valuable things about cycling and us about her.We may all be completely surprised. In the meantime, I'll keep an open mind and not jump to conclusions without more information.
03-23-2008, 11:24 AM
salsabike

Quote:

Originally Posted by BleeckerSt_Girl

I doubt either of them will ever be back here. Frankly, I don't blame them. Yikes.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SadieKate

I vote we all layoff the relationship counseling without knowing a damn thing about her and her husband.

In the meantime, I'll keep an open mind and not jump to conclusions without more information.

Oof, I couldn't agree more.
03-23-2008, 11:34 AM
Starfish

Quote:

Originally Posted by SadieKate

NOWHERE DOES SHE SAY HE CALLED HER A *****! GeorigaGirl says "he thinks . . . " This could be her interpretation of his words and thoughts.

SK, I know that I, for one, wrote about this as her characterization of events, not as though it was a direct quote of what he said.

But, she asks "How can I make him believe me?"

Well, she shouldn't have to do anything more than simply say, "I hurt" for him to believe her. Again, maybe he does believe her. All we have to go on is what she wrote. But, she asked us this question, so I think addressing it was in order.

GeorgiaGirl, I hope you do stick around on TE. As you can see, you will always get varied and frank feedback to your questions and opinions. Cycling is a wonderful sport, passtime and lifestyle, and the info on this forum is a wonderful support for that.

I for sure dislike a lot of what I read on TE, but it is not worth it to throw the baby out with the bathwater. There is too much to be gained here. Hope you decide the same. :)
03-23-2008, 11:54 AM
snapdragen

Quote:

Originally Posted by BleeckerSt_Girl

I doubt either of them will ever be back here. Frankly, I don't blame them. Yikes.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SadieKate

I vote we all layoff the relationship counseling without knowing a damn thing about her and her husband.

Just maybe, maybe, she'll come back and learn some valuable things about cycling and us about her.We may all be completely surprised. In the meantime, I'll keep an open mind and not jump to conclusions without more information.

Quote:

Originally Posted by salsabike

Oof, I couldn't agree more.

Adding my voice to the sentiment, thanks ladies for saying what I couldn't put into words.
03-23-2008, 11:57 AM
SadieKate

GeorigaGirl (please note the spelling intentional or not) said:

Quote:

Originally Posted by GeorigaGirl94

Take it easy on him girls he's sensitive...:)

Thanks for all the advice and I will take it to heart and hopefully I'll be able to come back and tell you all about my great rides!!

At this point many, many people had given her some great pointers on finding a new saddle and some encouragement, support and ways to help hubby understand.

Then we progressed to discussions of their relationship rather just tools for communication. She not only did not ask for relationship counseling but her participation in the thread appears to have ground to a halt, even though she was on the forum early this morning.

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Originally Posted by KnottedYet

GeorgiaGirl - does he let you have friends? Maybe you could take a friend to the LBS with you when you go. Being completely dependent on your DH for every aspect is perhaps not the best way to proceed, especially considering the differences in anatomy, interest, skill level, and motivation.

I've worked with far too many women in unbalanced domestic power situations. Please be aware that this much control over one person by the other member in the relationship is detrimental to both of you. Set out on your own two feet in regards to YOUR bicycle and YOUR riding. It will be good for you both.

Next we have someone declaring that he did call her a b**** not to mention the completely weird comment about her lack of finding a saddle being indicative of her true desire to cycle.:confused:

So many members grabbed on and were off and running presuming the worst without feedback or personal knowledge of GeorigaGirl herself.

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Originally Posted by chicago

sounds like you need to do two things:

1) tell your husband you don't like being called a b**** just because you don't want to ride
2) tell him to appreciate his wife for who she is... and not who he wants her to be :(

... and as for the saddle, honestly... if you were really into cycling (and that's perfectly okay that you're not!), you would have found one already that worked. I somehow think the saddle is not the real issue here :(

As far as hubby, he clearly identified that he was using her member log-in. He didn't hide anything about his identity. And we've let other men do that without comment.

How about we address her questions and not assume the worst of him?
03-23-2008, 12:20 PM
BleeckerSt_Girl

Quote:

Originally Posted by SadieKate

How about we address her questions and not assume the worst of him?

I think her saddle problem has been thoroughly addressed. As to the rest, we've heard more than enough already.
03-23-2008, 12:38 PM
Trek420

Long Live TE

This gal's been a member of our delightful, supportive, warm, wacky, wise, witty, wonderful "we put the fun in dysfunctional" community since '04.

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showthread.php?t=1712

And to this date nobody even replied to her first post. 1,046 people viewed (probably in the last two days) but nobody welcomed her or offered cycling community. I'm not self promoting but I believe I'm the one person who suggested she organize a ride through this board.

How many of us remember our first posts here? I sure do :rolleyes: I was obviously new to this board but to discussion groups as well. I changed the subject :eek: hijacked a thread oh the horror :eek: got gently slapped for that "stick to the subject or start your own ^@*& thread" by senior members.

I'm still here obviously. Maybe I'm thicker skinned than most. Fact is we run people off.

How many of us remember our first group ride? The person who welcomed you, the rider who made sure you are ok. That's the club you stay with.

I think we can all vow and that's self included to treat each other better. Especially be kinder still to new members.
03-23-2008, 12:56 PM
sgtiger

GeorigaGirl94 + Mr. GG,

I apologize if I came to the wrong conclusion. I'll go kick myself now.:o

~Sg
03-23-2008, 03:37 PM
crazycanuck

lock

Can we lock this thread?
03-23-2008, 03:55 PM
Trek420

We had just started getting to apologies, but have stalled before getting to talking about food or chocolate :o

Options include:
let it just kinda fade out to the bottom of the pile.
anyone can ask an admin to lock*
the thread originator can up and delete the whole shebang. :cool:
set to your "ignore thread" list.

*by clicking on the white triangle on any post other than your own.
03-23-2008, 04:59 PM
Savannahgurl

Once Again

You self righteous women have proven my point. I watched this thread go from an innocent question with an attempt at humor from Georgiagirl evolve into a lynching of her husband (A soldier fighting for YOUR country). I don't get it.

You ladies make me sick.
03-23-2008, 05:11 PM
redrhodie

Quote:

Originally Posted by Savannahgurl

You self righteous women have proven my point. I watched this thread go from an innocent question with an attempt at humor from Georgiagirl evolve into a lynching of her husband (A soldier fighting for YOUR country). I don't get it.

You ladies make me sick.

Oh, you're back. So nice to hear from you again! Been riding much? Putting in some miles, have you? Glad to see you haven't lost your focus. It's hard in the winter to keep it up ;)
03-23-2008, 05:25 PM
SouthernBelle

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Originally Posted by Savannahgurl

I will continue to lurk occassionally, but this will be my one and only post

Her (?) previous post. ;)
03-23-2008, 05:32 PM
snapdragen

I just read through this whole thing again. Let's try to keep it civil, ok? I really hate deleting threads.
03-23-2008, 05:33 PM
Savannahgurl

Hey Pipi

Yeah, as a matter of fact I have ridden quite a bit. No winter problem here in Georgia. Thanks for askin'................
03-23-2008, 05:50 PM
Blueberry

Quote:

Originally Posted by Savannahgurl

Yeah, as a matter of fact I have ridden quite a bit. No winter problem here in Georgia. Thanks for askin'................

Cool:D

/thread hijack/

Any recommended rides in your area? I saw there was a Hilton Head thread over in the regional section, but we'll be in Bluffton, SC in a couple of weeks for a wedding, and hoped you could point us in the right direction:)

/end hijack/

CA
03-23-2008, 06:18 PM
redrhodie

Quote:

Originally Posted by Savannahgurl

Yeah, as a matter of fact I have ridden quite a bit. No winter problem here in Georgia. Thanks for askin'................

Ummm, yeah, that's Pipi in my avatar....but I'm the one on the right.
03-23-2008, 07:17 PM
snapdragen

Quote:

Originally Posted by redrhodie

Ummm, yeah, that's Pipi in my avatar....but I'm the one on the right.

You're a small spider monkey? Wow, and I thought I was doing good as a two dimensional cartoon character punk.......
03-23-2008, 07:26 PM
Trek420

On the internet who knows who you're talking to :rolleyes: I may be a squid :D
03-23-2008, 07:29 PM
VeloVT

I am the walrus :D.
03-23-2008, 07:36 PM
sgtiger

Quote:

Originally Posted by Trek420

On the internet who knows who you're talking to :rolleyes: I may be a squid :D

I had calamari the other day. Oops! I hope they weren't relatives of yours.:p:D

Me BTW

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/image...9&type=profile
03-23-2008, 07:36 PM
Zen

I am your Aunt Mabel. I play accordion for weddings, bar mitzvahs and at the Friday Night Fish Fry at the fire hall.
03-23-2008, 07:37 PM
Trek420

If you read this thread backwards it says "Paul is dead" ;)

Quote:

Originally Posted by sgtiger

I had calamari the other day. Oops! I hope they weren't relatives of yours.:p:D

Nah, my relatives are a Duck and an Elephant.
03-23-2008, 07:38 PM
KnottedYet

Quote:

Originally Posted by Trek420

If you read this thread backwards it says "Paul is dead" ;)

There is a Peep diorama in this year's Washington Post Peep contest that says something to that effect... ;)

Now, where'd that link go?
03-23-2008, 07:41 PM
OakLeaf

I don't know how to spell this.
03-23-2008, 07:42 PM
Trek420

Happy Easter TE

Peeps here

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showthread.php?t=22084
03-23-2008, 07:44 PM
sgtiger

Quote:

Originally Posted by Trek420

Nah, my relatives are a Duck and an Elephant.

Wow and here I thought my family was diverse!
03-23-2008, 07:46 PM
Starfish

Quote:

Originally Posted by zencentury

I am your Aunt Mabel. I play accordion for weddings, bar mitzvahs and at the Friday Night Fish Fry at the fire hall.

Do you charge extra to bring the typing monkey? :p
03-23-2008, 07:53 PM
Trek420

Quote:

Originally Posted by Starfish

Do you charge extra to bring the typing monkey? :p

I thought the typing monkey is Aunt Mabel :confused:
03-23-2008, 07:58 PM
Starfish

Quote:

Originally Posted by Trek420

I thought the typing monkey is Aunt Mabel :confused:

Multiple personalities?
03-23-2008, 09:01 PM
Zen

Have you ever seen them together?
http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/b...monkey-1-1.jpg
looks like my secret is out

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