Wedding shower etiquette question

I like the idea of something to go with the skillet. Something like this book might be good.

And speaking of etiquette, I was invited to a "grandmother's shower" for next weekend. The son and daughter in law of a coworker are having a baby, but they live halfway across the country. So friends of the grandmother-to-be are throwing a shower for the grandmother, but we're supposed to bring gifts that my coworker will then deliver to her son and DIL. I've never heard of something like this before, and I don't even know the actual parents.

Fortunately, I'm already signed up to do a stream clean up that day, so I'm off the hook! I just thought it was an odd idea for a shower.

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Originally Posted by sfa

I like the idea of something to go with the skillet.

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Salt and pepper shakers go with a skillet ;)

What stream are you cleaning up? That water's gonna be cold!

The S&P set sounds like a fine shower gift. Just to personalize it a bit, how about including some recipe cards with your favorite recipes hand-written on them. It would tie in the shower and wedding gifts nicely.

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Originally Posted by Zen

What stream are you cleaning up? That water's gonna be cold!

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One of the local runs that feeds into the Patapsco. And every year it's at the end of March and it's bloody cold. We always pray for rain so that they'll reschedule the day--when that happens we usually end up doing the stream clean up in May, which is MUCH nicer!

Sarah

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Originally Posted by indigoiis

Re-gifting?
I have this beautiful Pottery barn salt and shaker set that I received as a gift from my boss for xmas. It's a nesting, white pottery set. Anyhow, I live on a farm in house with lots of dog hair and dust and this thing never even made it out of the lovely designer box it came in. The box is in my china cabinet.

I am thinking of re-gifting.

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Hey, if you want to keep it really cheap: Give the salt set at the shower and the pepper set at the wedding. :D

No seriously, if she's a really good friend, why don't you give her something really personal? Like a nice framed photograph of an event you both have good memories of.

I had a wedding like you, no fuss, and the gifts i enjoyed the most were the personal, non expensive ones.

Another thought: why don't you give her a 'day'. :D Like a day you do things together, go to a spa and get a massage and have a nice lunch afterwards. Or plan a nice ride if she's into cycling too.


(sorry for my bad English)

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Originally Posted by Syndirelah

Ok I apologize for the thread hijack, but I have a question that is sort of related...

Im going to my friends wedding next week... they are very good friends from grad school. They are both out of school and working, but Im only working part time and still in school (aka, poor!). How much do I spend on a gift? $50?

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I think you can buy something really nice for $50 :)

I think you can get something nice for $20.

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Originally Posted by Syndirelah

Ok I apologize for the thread hijack, but I have a question that is sort of related...

Im going to my friends wedding next week... they are very good friends from grad school. They are both out of school and working, but Im only working part time and still in school (aka, poor!). How much do I spend on a gift? $50?

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Spend what you can afford. You're don't have to choose between paying your bills and buying someone a gift.

As I understand it, there's no obligation to give a wedding present...and if you want to, you have a year in which to do it.

Many of my friends married when I was a poor grad student. The joke was always that my PRESENCE was my PRESENTS. :) They were all just so happy I was able to be there. I figure I'll double up on their 50th anniversary gifts. ;)

POST SHOWER REPORT:

The re-gift was a hit.

Nicest present (I thought). One of the woman bought some tough cotton with a beautiful print and sewed a basic pocketed apron and two potholders. She then wrapped that by folding it up so that the outside fabric was the "wrapping", tying with a pretty ribbon, and inserted a wooden spoon and fork in the pockets.

Now, she stays home all day with her kid.
But, I looked at that apron and I thought, I could do that.

indigoiis -- I'm glad things went well. Sometimes we stress about stuff more than we need to.

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Originally Posted by Possegal

Many of my friends married when I was a poor grad student. The joke was always that my PRESENCE was my PRESENTS. :) They were all just so happy I was able to be there. I figure I'll double up on their 50th anniversary gifts. ;)

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Possegal, I like your way of thinking!!:D