Printable View
Not all knowing. Just have some experience with life as do we all. You might be surprised what experiences I have had so I may be all knowing, at least in this situation.Quote:
Originally Posted by Queen
Sorry you are having some troubles right now and if you would like to discuss them, send me a private message I'm willing to listen.
Right now let's focus on Honeypie. What advice can you offer to her?
Wow Mel, beautifully said. Would you mind if I borrowed what you said about marriage? What a perfect way to describe a committed relationship.Quote:
Originally Posted by Melody
Personally, when I have problems, I don't always want _advice_ from others. Plain support and friendship is actually often much better.Quote:
Originally Posted by bcipam
To ignore your "victim blaming" attitude. :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally Posted by bcipam
Is it just me, or is it getting a little hot in here? :confused:
I didn't read through all the responses but it seems like some were not well recieved?
Anyway, I just want to offer my support and love. And remember- you only get one chance at this life- so make sure you enjoy every minute of it! And if your not, well do what it takes to change it. Life must be savored not dreaded.
take care!
M'kay ladies, step away from the keyboards and take a breath. We all want to support Honeypie in her difficult time, let's not do it by attacking each other.
Geez, I can get enough opinions from home. THANKS. I find differing opinions gives me many options to think about. Can't we all get along?
My bike is my savior. I ride and ride, when it is cold I ride inside. POUNDING each pedal with fierceness. Outside I look for the meanest hill and talk myself up the hill. I worry cuz he won't pay bills and threatens to take everything from me. Here in CA community property is the rule. It just means that right now things are really tough.
It is rainy/cold outside so no ride today or tomorrow. If anyone knows of a few good websites or chat groups I would appreciate it.
I know that you all have the best intentions in mind, and I love and appreciate it. Am flattered at the attention. HUG to all of you back!
Really Honypie- all I wanted to offer you was love and support. Nothing else. So here is a big HUG (((((((( HUG)))))))) :)
;) 2 years ago I made my new bike my best friend. When it started making me look better and feel better, then I started making more friends and found out that I am a good person.
Honey pie (and anyone else struggling) MAY THE BIKE BE WITH YOU:p
Honeypie -- I suggest opening a bank account in your name only. My ex emptied our account without my knowledge and I ended up with 9 bounced checks and A LOT of debt. And here's a BIG hug for you ((((((:)))))))
Pam, I don't mind. Use to your heart's content. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by bcipam
Honeypie, I do something similar. I may not be doing it in the same way but I've been known to just work myself to a lather till I don't have the emotional energy to be upset and I can then just sleep. My DH hates it when I do that since he's actually seen me faint from exertion. :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Honeypie
Hope you're doing well today. :)
Mel
Oh! And don't forget the power of..."The Best Friend" - I couldn't live without mine - she's the best: non judgmental, unassuming and she has big ears for my many tangents. Don't be afraid to turn to those who support you when you're low - I'm sure you'd do the same for them. Good luck, and remember, there are good men (really!) out there and you deserve one when you're truly ready to go in that direction. Give hugs to your kids.
Honeypie, I hope everything works out for you.
As someone who has lived an abused life, from my dad to my husband, I understand what you are going through. I am very glad you are taking positive steps for you and your kids.
Cycling and other outdoor activities are a positive influence for you and your kids. Movement is a big stress reliever.
Hang in there! Life does get better!
This board was sounding a little to much like those testosterone-laden boards rather than Team Estrogen's network of strong supportive women...:(
Words are never enough for relaying exactly what you meant, so let's keep in mind no one's intention (I believe) is mal-intended.
I think everything everyone wrote honeypie has something to take away from it, but it's just the fact that people are there to support you that's important as well. Wishing you better days soon.
Hi HoneyPie, I've never been through this myself but I know it is tough. Hang in there !
My sis who has a young kid ( my 1 yr old cutie-pie niece) is currently going through a divorce too. She has moved to stay with me and I'm trying to lend as much support to her as possible - physically (looking after my niece), emotionally and financially. On bad days when that to-be-ex-bro-in-law is behaving like a nut-case, I really feel like throwing my giant pedal wrench at him to crash this NUT ! :p
meanwhile, just hang in there. Here's a big *HUG*.
Alright, I admit I didn't read most of the replys but I got the jist:)
I'm not a huge Dr. Phil fan but he said something once that stuck in my head and helped me keep things in perspective when the "load" got too heavy:
"If the cost of being half a couple is the cost of being all of you - the price is too high".
Best of luck to you!
What a great perspective, Dar. Thanks for sharing it. Lise
Going thru the same thing. Big hugs
Why is it that everyone assumes that we just wake up one day and decide to be divorced?
You tried, I tried a long time.
Ride, ride, ride.
Yea, what she said. Thanks, Dar. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Lise
~BikeMomma