An abusive married boyfriend and a bike for a person half a foot taller.Quote:
Originally Posted by Trek420
I don't even know where to start...
An abusive married boyfriend and a bike for a person half a foot taller.Quote:
Originally Posted by Trek420
I don't even know where to start...
just a comment- unless your boyfriend is 20 pounds skinnier than every other single person he rides with or against, he has no right to tell you how to handle your weight or judge your appearance.
As for flat tires- I have had my semi expensive middle price range road bike for 5 years, and have had a total of 3 flats, the entire time, and I just ride on the type of tire that the bike came with. I have one change out of brakes and gear system due to
worn out issues, and replaced the chain three times. In that time I have put in endless hours and averaged over 5,000 miles a year, but then I am retired and no longer work so I have time. Granted that's not as much as some people ride, but it is more than a lot a people do.
I would also question your boyfriends math of 200,000 miles ridden unless it is his life record. If we're talking say a 10 year period, that's 20,000 miles a year which is 400 miles a week. Is he riding non stop 24/7 or what?
A good bike is a good bike, and a bad boy friend is a bad boy friend.
just sayin
marni
The bicycle is just as good company as most husbands and, when it gets old and shabby, a woman can dispose of it and get a new one without shocking the entire community. ~Ann Strong
I'm pretty lucky. I got a great bike and a great hubby...he's probably more than great. He totally enables my "addiction." :cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by Trek420
Obviously Ann Strong did not have as great a DH ;)
I have friends like Ann...mostly I want to kick their hubbies in the nuts for being such losers. :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Trek420
her last entry is very interesting...
As they say in mystery novel, things are not as what they seemed to be.
I thought this was a troll. Maybe or maybe not. If not, then very sad. If so then got a lot of folks fired up. Seems to be saying just enough to get a reaction.
Agreed. :cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by channlluv
What Tulip said, the thing that did it for me was the married part. Why would anyone be with an abusive cheapskate, especially if he's married. :confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by tulip
well, actually, if someone is a cheapskate it's likely that he will be a cheapskate everywhere with everyone. wife, kids, gf, etc...
Costco's NOrthrock is not bad from what I've seen of it in Costco. I wouldn't recommend it as a bike for someone with a lot of money to spend - but if you're in debt from the kids, unemployment, etc. - the costco bike is great for the $500 IF it fits you. Make sure to keep extra money for taking it to the bike shop to get looked over. Costco also has a great return policy on that, so if it turns out to be a mistake, you can return it at any point.Quote:
Originally Posted by socaljewel
But if you can afford more like $1,000, maybe see how far your money can go at REI, which also has a great return policy.
If it seemed like you had a greater sense for what you needed, I'd say go look at used.
There's lots of advantages for me in biking with biking wunderkind. I never have to look at a map. I never have to load the bikes onto the bike racks. I never have to spend any money on bike maintenance. on my own I wouldn't bike let alone bike 5 hrs and cover 73 miles. But there are limits to how much even he will do. For some reason, he lives like a penniless graduate student. But he's happy so who am I to argue. My kids spend money like water and they're miserable. I am so impressed with women who know how to maintain their bikes. I must be learning something from being around the bf and watching him. Maybe one day I will be able to change a tire or replace cables or change a broken spoke.
what is biking wunderkind? :confused:
wonderkind= genius
Something sounds terribly wrong here....
Troll or trainwreck, take your pick. Either way, I don't want to touch this with a 10-foot pole.
People can have married boyfriends.
People can have controlling boyfriends.
People can have stingy boyfriends.
People often exaggerate when telling stories.
But can a person who is old enough to have adult children ride a too big mountain bike 50 miles when riding only four days a month? Can they ride their 35 pound "big tire" bike 73 miles in five hours? If nothing else, the OP has a tough rear end.
Socaljewel (if you are for real), you said that you would not bike on your own. You mentioned the boring mountainbike trail. Maybe biking isn't for you. Maybe you are a runner.
my hats off to all of you women. I wish I knew all the things you know. I wish I had the energy to go biking on my own. Running requires no equipment and no hauling the equipment around and there's no risk of bodily injury from crashes at high speeds. I hope one day to be as self sufficient and as knowledgable as you guys are.
I hope you can find the strength to ride your ride. It's pretty liberating to be able to hop on the bike whenever you want, and ride as fast as you want, with no one to tell you you're doing it wrong.
I think you have the strength and the knowledge already. I think the thing you are lacking is something else, maybe self esteem. The ability to learn to change a flat, to ride alone, to buy the bike you want without needing someone else's approval, just needs to be harnessed. You need to realize your own worth, and put that first.
The stuff I know I learned right here on TE, and my LBS, and local bike clubs ... I did not come to the forum knowing it although I've always ridden a bike and used to run. It's a long process of read, ride, write a report, get feedback, read, learn, ride again alone or with a group ... repeat ...
Long live TE :D
Wait, is it even possible to have been married for 29 years and still wear clothes from junior high? Those things must be so thread bare, I would assume multiple arrests for indecent exposure would be worth shelling out a few bucks for a new shirt.
So much of this post screams troll! But the DIY gatorade sounds cool.
OP, I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt because being in an abusive relationship SUCKS when people don't believe you, or think you must be exaggerating, or don't understand why you don't just leave....
but seriously. If all this is for reals you need to find support and dump this jerk. Worry about the perfect bike once you get your life back in order.
I have a recipe...I will post it. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Antaresia
I've heard from her in email. She's taking a team estrogen break.
she's alive and well on Facebook.
+1 I'll say this very kindly, you need a break from your bf, doing so would give you a breath of fresh air to think on your own two feet. As some of the others have said, join a local group in your area and dive into biking. A new bike is lightweight to load and unload. You're stronger than you think. But you need a clear head and get out from under his thumb which is seriously dragging you down in many areas. I wish you the best. Get out there and get riding. jwQuote:
Originally Posted by redrhodie
All the ladies up above have given good advice...
If I were in your shoes, I'd say something like "Screw the 20 pounds... let's lose about 180" and dump the manipulative boy/girlfriend. Nobody that you care about (or who cares about you) deserves to be treated teh way you describe.
Buy the new bike. It'll be better company, take you new places, and maybe change your life for the better. It's a big ocean, and there are a lot of better fish out there in the pond.
Have you looked at used bikes? I just got a really good deal on Craigslist. It took a long time, but I found exactly what I wanted -- like new and about half retail.
It has slightly smaller tires and different shifters, but I hopped on it and rode home (in Manhattan) with no problem -- though I did wait till after rush hour.
Why don't you just start looking for bikes and see where it leads you? You can get good advice about bikes here -- I got a whole tutorial on how to evaluate a used bike.
If you don't want people commenting on your personal life, just don't mention it.
A bit off-topic, but the only concussion I've given myself was from tripping and falling while trail running. So there's that.Quote:
Originally Posted by socaljewel
-- gnat! ("Weren't you wearing a helmet?" "I was running.")
Ha, the worst injury I ever incurred was while trail running, too...a grade 2 sprain that I continued to run on for 9.9 miles, since I was part of a relay team.Quote:
Originally Posted by gnat23
Guess what got me into cycling like I did a year ago...? ;) Not being able to run at all for 5.5 weeks and only limited for closer to 12 made my bike my best friend. :)
Salsabike fell while running last year and her hand still isn't right. best to stay home in bed!
Yep, my ankle still is not right a year later. Though that's more from doing everything wrong in the first 48 hours after injury than it was from the injury itself, I'm certain. Continuing to run, standing around, minimal icing, minimal elevation, drinking of beer...yeah, pretty much textbook what NOT to do on a fresh sprain! :oQuote:
Originally Posted by Biciclista
Even the beer?
Heh, yep...anything that thins the blood is kind of a no-no, since it increases bleeding and swelling at the injury site, which increases damage.Quote:
Originally Posted by Owlie
I'd think it'd have a net dehydrating effect...unless it somehow acts as a vasodilator and makes already leaky blood vessels even leakier. I can't find anything about vasopressin acting as a vasoconstrictor except in large doses, though.Quote:
Originally Posted by zoom-zoom
/nerd
Probably not a good idea to imbibe anyway due to interactions with painkillers and all that, though.
That too!Quote:
Originally Posted by Owlie
Well, now I know why all my injuries are slow to heal. http://foolstown.com/sm/alc.gif
:D I'm from WI...beer is medicine! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by wackyjacky1
My favorite quote about trail running (which I, too, do) is: "There are two kinds of trail runners. Those who have fallen, and those who will." I'm in the former group. :pQuote:
Originally Posted by gnat23
As for the OP, I'm not her and I don't know her situation so I have no opinion on BF.
Beer.. is that why I fall down all the time!