Elope?

I think the whole point of all this is for each couple to do what would make them happy. That's different for different people, of course. :p:p

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Originally Posted by channlluv

The fun thing about this is that it's your families having to do all the traveling. It also sounds like a blast in that you'll have all your family members there for a vacation at the beach, in your own hometown, so you already know all the fun things to do. That is just so darn clever. I love it.

I hope your ceremony is beautiful and the family celebration afterward just as special.

Love all around today. I like it.

Roxy

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Sorry for the thread hi-jack Indy...

Roxy-that was the plan! That way we didn't have to decide who's family had to travel and who didnt. We are also planning on doing it early Thanksgiving week so we can have the reception at one house and then Thanksgiving dinner all together at the other house. :D

We're sort of eloping. I've been married before (okay twice, but who's counting?) The first time was a shotgun wedding (we welcomed my daughter 6 months later), the next time around was a large formal afair, and we spent way too much money on things that I now realize didn't mean a thing.

My fiance and I were going to go to Las Vegas alone, but now it looks like our entourage is up to 15. We're not paying for anyone's anything, but will arrange dinner and have a small cake post-ceremony. Basically folks are using it as an excuse to go to Vegas, which is fine.

My dress is actually the one I wore in a previous lifetime, but I've had it modified to better fit the me that I am now, and to make it easier to wear while partying in LV; I might as well have some fun, I'm never wearing it again. The boy will wear a suit, b/c he needs one anyway. I did order invites, but only 25, more just for fun than anything else. I can't wait!

Have fun, Tofu, and best wishes!

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Originally Posted by BleeckerSt_Girl

I think the whole point of all this is for each couple to do what would make them happy. That's different for different people, of course. :p:p

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I agree. The purpose of my thread was to help me discern what might make me/us happy. Beyond the general idea of eloping, I can't say that I'm completely sure. I know more of what I don't want (a big expense, family feuds, extra stress) than what I do. Or, if I do know what I want, I'm not entirely sure at this point on how to translate it.

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Originally Posted by indysteel

LOL. I don't think either one of us is ready to broadcast this there. Madness and mayhem (aka Gutfiddle) will ensue. So, you can keep a secret, right? :)

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I'm not tellin' if you're not!

Congrats Indy!

For what it's worth, I did elope and I would not do it again for the following reasons:
We eloped because we could not agree on any part of the wedding. In hindsight, this was an indicator for issues in our marriage.

I have a very strong faith in God and really felt like we did not have a strong spiritual foundation for our marriage.

I'm a daddy's girl and I REALLY wanted my dad to give me away and have my family's blessing. They did not know we were eloping and although they never said a word, I know they were disappointed (I'm the youngest girl).

Our marriage didn't survive and I don't blame eloping, lol. I do, however, look back at why we did it that way and see that I compromised some of my core values at the time and now realise you can't do that and not end up resenting your partner at some point for it. Be true to yourselves and discuss everything before getting married to make sure you do share the same core values. I still have my dream wedding planned in my head and it's a small family affair. If I ever get married again I'll do it differently.

Enjoy your day however you want to!