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Oh my gosh! You lie! You do not look 53 at all! I mean this. Look at your picture. You are so young looking. What is your secret? You look like you are maybe in your mid 30's. my husband is almost 50 and everyone says he is in he's 30's too.Quote:
Originally Posted by suzieqtwa
what about libido?mine has vanished!is it the age(39 and 11months)the bike or what,id rather go to bed with a book,not a terrific thing to own up to,eeek
One of my bosses is turning 40 in a few months and so she decided that she'd go on a diet and start out her 40s looking as good as she wants to. I'm very proud of her. I, on the other hand, am looking a 30 in 2 1/2 years, and am SO not where I want to be. I hear that 30's are better than the 20's and the 40s are even better than that. Congrats on being 40 to all of you ladies!!
And the 50's are even better than THAT, if you keep biking! :)
I can't believe I'm 41. Turning 40 didn't bother me at all because I didn't believe it was happening! I never thought I'd make it to 25, the way I used to abuse myself when I was younger, so being in my 40s is all icing on the cake!
I agree with what all the other ladies have said. I'm financially and mentally and physically in good shape and am enjoying life! It's all a number and a state of mind.
I like this thread; I like to read about what others are thinking when it comes to age. I just turned 43 and haven't figured it all out ... yet! I feel I am better physically, mentally, and spiritually than I was at 33, but I still have a LONG LONG LONG way to go before I can say I feel "super, wonderful, etc."I am glad I ride a bike, because it helps. :cool:
I was that way until I found someone I really felt comfortable with and adored. I *want* that person so much (and in so many ways other than physical) that all this libido that I thought had faded away LEAPT up and took over! Don't worry! It will all come back when the time is right. Meanwhile, enjoy your books! (Might I suggest trying a few by Douglas Adams, Tom Holt, or Terry Pratchett?)Quote:
Originally Posted by hellosunshine
Yeah I can vouch for that too. Getting divorced certainly got mine back in shape...
40?!! Who can remember 40?
LOL!! My thoughts exactly!Quote:
Originally Posted by Aint Doody
annie
I turned 49 today...so I am closing in on 50.
I have never been bothered by my age. I don't like to dwell on how old I am. I want to go out there and enjoy life whatever the age brings and despite the fact I've had one specific health issue the past year that has resolved.
Enjoy each moment.
I was just starting to reflect on what it meant to be 40 when I got diagnosed with breast cancer.
Then when I was just starting to reflect on being 50 I got fired in a horrible way from my job that I really liked.
Then today I was looking for a new sig and found this one.
Sums it up, really
I am turning 35 in March.
I have a 5 year goal/plan
Race Elite By Forty (EBF).
This year i will attempt Master Expert (mountain biking). it will be tough with the surgery recovery, but all my buddies have now told me they are NOT letting me NOT race expert (i have been racing in the sport category for quite some time).
i am little nervous about 40, but my 30's were far better than my 20's, so i am hoping like wine, i will get better with age! :)
I LOVE that you ladies are so optimistic about aging. Unfortunately, in our society the only age that is good is the young one. However, I can say that I am still confused and frustrated at 27. Maybe you will all start a movement to overturn this whole "younger is better" thing. When I hit 29, I'll come back and reanimate this thread for support. :)
Freedom.....
I love being in my 40's.....the only downside for me is that it takes longer to recover from hard training, and if that is the worst of it, I will take it.
I am a better wife, daughter, sister, friend and teacher than I was 10 years ago. Compiled life experience gave me that gift, and I cherish it.
When I turned 40 I decided to be a kid again. I took up backpacking and hiked part of the AT. I also started riding. Now I am 43, resently single again and thinking... I am getting the hang of this! I still don't train hard, eat poorly and spend too much time alone in my house, but that is changing. I'm my mind, I am 28...now I have to convince my body of that!
This may be my new signature!!!!
For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free", here's an update for you. Now 80% of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage.
Well, I'd say that's a matter of opinion!Quote:
Unfortunately, in our society the only age that is good is the young one.
There are 4 pages of posts here that disagree with yours.
Karen
I guess what I meant was that pop culture thinks that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tuckervill
Meaux, it's easy to see it this way, which I think makes it particularly hard to be someone transitioning out of the 20s into 'everything else.' I think the buzz/hype around youth is two-fold.
First, I think this in large part a product of the entertainment media. If you step away from the light of entertainment (including most professional sports) world, the 'real life' interactions between 20somethings and older people mostly favor the older people. The older people are usually the ones with more power, money, and stability through social bonds to family, colleagues, and social organizations. In other words, in day-to-day life, it's the older people who usually have what the younger people want [even though they might not admit it - I mean stability, ugh, that sounds so boring!].
I am in tech, and rode the Internet wave as a fresh college grad in the mid 90s. The late 90s were so interesting with the dotcom era because for a while this dynamic was tantalizingly flipped around with recent college graduates (or dropouts) or otherwise generally not qualified people left and right founding the next great thing company. Of course, why the VCs went for this so often I've no idea, but they were acting like the entertainment industry, motivated more out of fear of being left behind than what was necessary to build stability.
Well, that didn't last. It couldn't - the leadership & life experience to create organizations with longevity was largely lacking. A few companies (and their founders) made it perhaps due to a combination of luck, some truly breakthrough tech, or sheer perseverance, but most failed. And people in blue-suit traditional companies either looked on with bemusement at what was going on, or wondered if they were missing out.
The entertainment industry is one place in our society where life experience doesn't usually mean a whole lot, at least on the public side. What seems to matter most is cornering 'the next big thing' under your label, in your movie, on your team etc.
The 2nd part is I think young adults (loosely defined as late teens through mid twenties) are particularly influenced by pop culture - because at that age we are for the first time able to make our own choices yet so unsure of what choices to make. It take some time to sort this out and get on a path of any kind. Most of us will continue to reevaluate and adjust this throughout our lives, but we'll do so with some perspective and hindsight as a foundation.
I guess, what I mean is - if one wants to see a society that values youth seemingly above all else, pop culture is a ready way to do that. But if one wants to see a society that values age and wisdom and life experience, that's just as available. So, I'd ask why do you care about what the pop culture portrays ;)
I don't understand why I am being attacked for complimenting everyone here. I don't particularly care about what pop culture says and thinks, I was mostly stating a point. The general culture is youth-obsessed and I think it's very sad.
I agree with you! Why else would plastic surgery, Botox, etc. be so prevalent now? Because so many of us in our 40s, 50s, and beyond want to look younger, to deny who we are becoming with the passing years. I wish we could all just age in peace and not feel compelled to look 30 again. It can put a tremendous amount of pressure on those of us who choose not to go the unnatural route. Then again, who am I to talk -- as so many others on here, I color my hair.Quote:
Originally Posted by Meaux
I think the women who have posted here have amply demonstrated that aging is not such a terrible thing after all, no matter what society/pop culture might think. We're healthy, fit, and feeling good about being in our 40s+. I think the whole entertainment industry (TV/movies/music) is playing a very insidious role in our lives when so many women our age feel that we must look years younger than we are. I've got two friends in their mid 40s who have both had several cosmetic surgeries already....while I'm certainly not ready to join them, it does make me wonder if when we get together in our 50s and 60s, I'll look 10-15 years older than them. Why do I care??? Because I too am a part of this culture we live in and I can't say I am totally immune to its influence. :( For those of you who can, I applaud you!
Emily
I used to treat patients with botched plastic surgeries. (so bad they needed physical therapy!) Plastic surgery fell way down my list of "fun things" then.
I had a friend who was a nurse for a plastic surgeon. I went to her work a couple times, and the staff (who all got free surgery as a perk) creeped me out. They looked unnatural. Too perfect to be real. The receptionist looked like she was staring into a high wind her face was so tight.
I will tell you that an active healthy woman looks "younger" than one who has had a ton of plastic surgery. Watch the way she moves, her posture, how she breathes. It's really amazing what you see once you look beyond the "beauty" the media teaches us to fixate on.
Now, I'm not knocking reconstructive plastic surgery. I'm talking the kind where a perfectly nice-looking woman decides she needs to look "better".
Hi Meaux, I'm sorry if it sounded like I was attacking you, certainly did not mean to be. :confused: I guess I didn't do a good job of explaining my thoughts. I was trying to say that I think we can see what we want to see in society and focus on what we want to focus on. I see a general culture that is 'age and wisdom obsessed', at least for all things unrelated to physical appearance. So for me getting older and wiser is a good thing!Quote:
Originally Posted by Meaux
Well, a very Happy Birthday to you Bluetree, err, 1 day late. :o
Howya doin?
I just turned 42 and can honestly say I'm more content now than I've ever been. Content with who I am as a human being.
Sure - I'll continue to work on improving my career, my fitness, my cycling, my parenting, my education.. etc etc ad naseum.
BUT - right now, today, in this moment - I've accepted myself - cellulite and all. I think it takes a good 20 years past turning 20 to learn true self acceptance and how to roll with it, how not to sweat the small stuff.
Bad hair cut? It'll grow out. Burned Thanksgiving dinner? There's always next year. Disasterous family vacation? Ah well, what can you do, try again ---- or not ;)
A little life wisdom is worth the price of turning 40. I can't wait to see what I've learned by 50... 60..
:D