The Other Forum

[PinkBike]

I was really into getting all the info on the Vino doping thing, so I went to all the regular cycle news sites and forums.

I read a bunch of threads on the tour de france forum on the other site and it just really bothered me - the way the post-ers treat each other - the snide comments, the picking apart each others' threads, the demeaning, the mean-spirited sarcasm, the namecalling, the bickering, bleh.

I want to say a great big THANK YOU to all of you TE women who are always supportive, educational, accepting, caring, fun and friendly. amici veloce

[Zen]

We gots couth.that rhymes with youth just so ya know

[Starfish]

We gots couth.that rhymes with youth just so ya know

Well, if I can't BE it, I can RHYME with it! (But which is which?) :p :p

[Trek420]

Why is this forum different than other forums?

On the other forums we sit up at our desk and flame people
On this forum we recline with Cliff Blocks and Peets and are couth ;) :cool:

[East Hill]

What's really sad is when the sarcasm is being generated by the moderators :eek: .

Fortunately, that does not happen here :D .

East Hill

[RoadRaven]

I agree... thats why I have hung about so long

Even when the discussion gets heated, it never gets into the venomous flaming, or unnecessary belittling I have seen on other forums.

The culture that has developed here is to be admired.

Thankyou TE participants, admin and moderators!

[ehirsch83]

I agree, I used to be a regular reader/poster on another board, and I visited the women's forum on it. Eden told me to come check out TE, and now I am on TE regularly(i.e. multiple times a day) where I now only check the other one once or twice a week.

I feel like everyone here is welcoming and open to everytime of person(can't say women because we go beyond that here with a few great men), no one is put down because of a question asked or something they have or do, instead it is looked at as being a good quality that someone might be into something that you aren't- diversity is not looked down on.

[Pax]

TE is indeed unique (in a good way ;) ). I know when I come here I have to mentally switch gears and drop the combative mode I have on the "other" boards.

[Crankin]

Love your parody of the Four Questions, Trek.

Robyn

[Trek1500]

I don't post here, or anywhere for that matter, very much, but I just want to say that you ladies have class. Most other forums make my blood boil. I don't mind some snark, but rude and cruel remarks are so childish. This place is always a joy to visit.

[Geonz]

You're all just too [insert flameworthy words of your choice here] to have a good discussion!!!

Oops, have to do like Queen and switch back to TE gear ;)

[KnottedYet]

I don't hang out on any other forums. Sometimes I visit BikeJournal, but I don't hang out there. That one is also pretty civil.

[sundial]

I like having this forum where people are more respectful of each other. I guess it's because women are generally more sensitive and thoughtful. :)

[KnottedYet]

(and smarter :p )

[Duck on Wheels]

Love your parody of the Four Questions, Trek.

Robyn

Yep ;) Manishtanah haforum hazeh michol ha forumot, sheh v'chol ha forumot we flame and we gripe, haforum haze-eh ... we do-on't?

And the answer: Cuz we like it this way, and cuz our moderators help us keep it this way. :D

So now that I'm contemplating hosting a forum myself (adding an on-line discussion element to a professional society's membership journal I edit), I'd welcome any tips from the moderators as to how much work that is and how they go about doing it.

[KnottedYet]

Oooh, trying to ride herd on a bunch of academics in a forum would give me a migraine!

Much more frightening than a forum of testosterone-laden carbon-or-nothing full-kit racerboys with a chip on their shoulder!

[Trek420]

Love your parody of the Four Questions, Trek.

Robyn

And I love it that TE gals are wise and smart and get quips like that :D

[East Hill]

So now that I'm contemplating hosting a forum myself (adding an on-line discussion element to a professional society's membership journal I edit), I'd welcome any tips from the moderators as to how much work that is and how they go about doing it.

It's not that much work to moderate when everyone is well behaved and civil. I think the larger the board, the harder it gets. Some boards have strict rules, others are looser. It helps to know your member base.

If you think that your board will have some nasty fighting--have strict rules, and stick to them. Don't let one or two members get out of hand. You'll be accused of playing favourites if someone gets banned, and a perceived favourite does the same, and doesn't get banned. As a moderator, your biggest function (after getting rid of spammers) is to be HELPFUL. Welcome people, make them feel they are adding to the depth and breadth of a board. Don't belittle people. If you need to correct someone, try to do it without sounding spiteful, or condescending.

One last thing--have a hidden forum if you are not the only moderator, and use that as a 'test' forum. Make certain that your moderators (or you) can ban someone without taking out another user or two as collateral damage. Have your moderators practice thread merges and moves, deleting threads and posts, etc.

Good luck :) .

East Hill

[Zen]

Oy veh.

Now I've got to learn Hebrew, already?

[Flybye]

I got called stupid once on this forum and the poster wished that one day I'd be shot and buried in a hole. Possibly this person should check out the other less moderated site and share her well wishes with others there :D

Even though one or two ladies on this forum might be nasty, I LOVE THE SUPPORT AND THE LADIES. I can't say enough good about the way most of us are respectful and helpful. This is a top notch place to be!

Keep it up!
Love ya all!!

[mimitabby]

I must pipe in here too. This is the forum for me.

And hey, at the risk of jinxing ourselves, the spammers have left us alone for quite a while.

most of the time everyone here is considerate, kind, and sympathetic.

[indigoiis]

Perhaps we should integrate this into a TE jersey?

http://www.sakarigraphics.com/sakari/images/chicks%20rule%20youre%20right.jpg

[GLC1968]

I like having this forum where people are more respectful of each other. I guess it's because women are generally more sensitive and thoughtful. :)

It's not that were women...it's that we are women who have an physical outlet that helps us remain sane.

I belong to a couple of other all women boards and civility and tact are quite often foreign concepts. :eek:

[snapdragen]

What's really sad is when the sarcasm is being generated by the moderators :eek: .

Fortunately, that does not happen here :D .

East Hill


:D :D Or it's just to subtle to notice......:D :D

[Pedal Wench]

Why is this forum different than other forums?

On the other forums we sit up at our desk and flame people
On this forum we recline with Cliff Blocks and Peets and are couth ;) :cool:

Love it! And get it too!

[margo49]

If choir practice is starting, does that mean we have to start the Pessach cleaning and cooking and planning too?

[Duck on Wheels]

I've actually never done that. But I read a Haggadah once, and I liked the bit that (paraphrased) goes -- if I haven't cleaned it yet, I hereby declare it clean anyway!

[Wahine]

Love it! And get it too!

I'm sure I would love it.......if I got it. I don't get it. But that's why I love TE, I learn sooooooo much here and everyone is so lovely and kind.

[Crankin]

"It" is a part of the Passover seder that is called the 4 questions. They are asked by the youngest child (person) at the seder and henceforth, the story of Passover is told through the answers to the questions. The way Trek phrased her original comment she used the the language and intonation of the real questions; i.e Why is this night different from all other nights? and Why do we eat reclining on pillows this night when we eat sitting up on all other nights?
FYI
I also do not do the total cleaning out, etc before the holiday, but as it often coincides with the beginning of the good cycling weather, I will use that as an excuse, not the fact that I just never do it.

Robyn

[KnottedYet]

I got called stupid once on this forum and the poster wished that one day I'd be shot and buried in a hole. Possibly this person should check out the other less moderated site and share her well wishes with others there :D !

:eek: :eek: :eek: Who the **** did that!?!?!? Dammm!:eek:

[East Hill]

:D :D Or it's just to subtle to notice......:D :D

I'll revise that to:

We don't need to be hit over the head with sarcasm. A deft, light touch is good :) .

East Hill

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

:eek: :eek: :eek: Who the **** did that!?!?!? Dammm!:eek:

It's been quoted totally out of context, so the original meaning and intent is altered. It's really best not to drag it up again. :cool:

[short cut sally]

I also give this forum a 2 thumbs up. I tried another bike forum twice, had to give it the benefit after the first visit, and all i could say was "wow" in a bad way. I visit this site daily, if not 3-5 times depending on what my day is like or with all the hullaballoo of the TdF i have to get my updates here. So, in addition to being a place to learn something, shopping experiences, get or give advice, or get just see what adventures my "friends" are having, or the bikes they just purchased. I am truly thankful for this site. Keep up the good work ladies, and Mr. Silver too

[Flybye]

Yep, SH is right, my statement (not a quote) was taken out of context. Others were discussing in previous posts on this, the "other forum" topic that they felt comfortable posting here. Not so much for me right now. My only intent was to let others know that there are folks everywhere, regardless of the forum, that lack the ability to be civil. Even though I am one tough cookie, the remarks that this person made toward me did hurt my feelings. I considered backing off the site and not posting anymore after the poster made these comments to me, but the wealth of experience and advice that I receive from the other women is worth more than a smack by someone else. I also received numerous personal messages in regards to the remarks made by this individual which helped. Her remarks were removed from the topic forum. Great moderators is right!!! Yeah and thanks!! I don't wish to name this person at all, just to let others know that controversial subject are best left off of this site - stick to cycling related stuff. IMHO.

Fortunately, there are not many folks here who are crusty, so this is a fantastic site. I am thankful for those who recognize diversity and are comfortable with those who have opinions that are other than their own. I applaud the TE ladies for their couth:D

[onimity]

I learn a lot here too and really enjoy the friendly atmosphere.

The only thing this forum is missing is a good male-leg-shaving how-to. Those threads crack me up especially since the one thing that they all seem to agree on is that women know next to nothing about shaving. For example, our hair is really fine, and waxing doesn't hurt us like it would a man. And every once in a while someone just has to try Nair. :eek:

:D

[jobob]

Oh I dunno, we've had a few good shaving threads in the past. :eek: :o

[SadieKate]

On this forum we recline with Cliff Blocks and Peets and are couth ;) :cool:Speak for yourself. It's Tim Tams for me this week thanks to TH. Next week, it'll be Testostertoblerone.

[jobob]

Next week, it'll be Testostertoblerone.

Oooh, who's your source ?
You can tell meeeeee, I can keep a sekret :cool:

[SadieKate]

I'll pick you up some on my next trip to Mexico.;)

You'll need to supply the shoebox.

[spazzdog]

While you're shopping, I'd love a little type O+ truffle selection... preferably from a high altitude.

spazz

[Fredwina]

yes, but do you put the cow blood in the chicken or is it vice -versa? I'm so confused:p

[Kano]

Fortunately, there are not many folks here who are crusty, so this is a fantastic site. :D

This is because we shower after our rides -- if not, we would be pretty crusty!

And I too applaud the ladies of TE -- for all they share, and the delightful way they do it!

Karen in Boise

[Skierchickie]

I just gotta say, I agree wholeheartedly - this forum rocks! I have read a couple of heated discussions here, but nothing like the flaming I've seen on the two other forums I've tried (one triathlon, one automobile). Seems like people can't post anything without getting flamed on those. Not fun, and not helpful. On the downside, I spend waaaayyyy too much time here! :rolleyes: I especially like being able to discuss female-type issues without weirdos jumping in and sending the whole thread down the drain. Not to say there are no weirdos here! :D Just the good kind, not the creepy kind!

Thanks for all the fantabulous input on so many topics! And, in closing, GO CONTADOR!

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Not to say there are no weirdos here! :D Just the good kind, not the creepy kind!


Yeah, we LIKE good weirdos! (well, that is to say *I* do) :cool: :p :p