My bike shop guys say they have never been able to anticipate what saddle people will like. It's a trial and error thing - but sounds like you want something at least a little softer! However, it's *where* you hit, not what you hit, that counts the most. If you're wide, I s'pose the saddle will need to be a bit wider - and you might see if there's an "entry level" women's saddle that will be contoured more to our buttbones, but even that is no real sure thing... some women prefer men's saddles. (Mine's generic, which means men's I suppose... )